LIke before people used to have differnet kind of clothes,hairstyles and also personalities. But as fashion changes peoples personality changes also, how long does it normally take for fashion to change for example like 5 years back there wasnt that many girls/boys that used gel now everywhere you see there is bound to be gel used in hair.
So how long really will it take for fashion to change?
Thanks.
How long does it take for fashion to change?
well actually its mostly the big clothes companies that change the fashion. really without even trying, but it can also be a popular person. but just make your own style... i mean it probably wont take that long for the fashion to change again. just wait a year or less!How long does it take for fashion to change?
when the people decide that thats not cool anymore
It depends really.
I change my fashions uite frequently, maybe about every 5 months I decide to change my general look.
But usually, maybe it ranges from 2-6 years?? It really depends tbh.
Sorry my answer was crappy...
Fashions change every half year, like spring/summer then to an autumn/winter
but as for things like gelled hair etc, it just depends really, things can phase out pretty quickly, like after a few months, or a year.
Then there are other things that last for a few years, even a decade or so!
fashion changes everyday..
a new design is designed everyday..
its not about what people are wearing its how they're wearing it..
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
How many years till a person's personality changes?
How many years does it take for a person's personality to change, even if it's just a little bit? Like for example, a shy 14 year old boy who likes to play video games and acts immature... How many years would it take for him to become more mature, or at least get other hobbies or something?How many years till a person's personality changes?
A Good year he shows very promising characteristics!
Best Wishes.
Mars Mission.
13th Year Psych Student.How many years till a person's personality changes?
You are changing all the time.
As for becoming something else, that will require effort. Will not happen on its own.
It has nothing to do with years or even time for that matter. It has to do with experiences and a changing state of mind. Although time is needed for anything to occur, it could take 10 years for someones personality to change, or it could take 2 seconds, where the individual realises or experiences something hence changing personality wise; changing the way that they view things, personal values etc.
It is said a personality is formed permanently by the time someone is about 7. It takes a major life event to change any personality (that's different from a person's preferences, enjoyments, hobbies, etc).
I don't think it would take him years. I think when he gets to the point in his life when he wants to socialize and date girls he will change. Some people play video games their who lives and they still have families and jobs and raise children. You can take up new hobbies at any point in life and socializing just takes practice. He needs to go to football games or church groups or join clubs where other people are. He has to practice talking to people and having conversations and just get out and meet people. It doesn't take years to do that, just practice.
A Good year he shows very promising characteristics!
Best Wishes.
Mars Mission.
13th Year Psych Student.How many years till a person's personality changes?
You are changing all the time.
As for becoming something else, that will require effort. Will not happen on its own.
It has nothing to do with years or even time for that matter. It has to do with experiences and a changing state of mind. Although time is needed for anything to occur, it could take 10 years for someones personality to change, or it could take 2 seconds, where the individual realises or experiences something hence changing personality wise; changing the way that they view things, personal values etc.
It is said a personality is formed permanently by the time someone is about 7. It takes a major life event to change any personality (that's different from a person's preferences, enjoyments, hobbies, etc).
I don't think it would take him years. I think when he gets to the point in his life when he wants to socialize and date girls he will change. Some people play video games their who lives and they still have families and jobs and raise children. You can take up new hobbies at any point in life and socializing just takes practice. He needs to go to football games or church groups or join clubs where other people are. He has to practice talking to people and having conversations and just get out and meet people. It doesn't take years to do that, just practice.
How do you change your personality?
I have been shy my whole life. I absolutely hate my personality. When Im in a situation to talk with someone, my mind goes blank and I cant come up with anything to say and then I feel really stupid at the things I do say. How can I change my personality?How do you change your personality?
I am 21 and i use ot have the same problem but you can't just change it overnight , im barely starting ot get the hang of it. You have to always remember that you have to think in the mode of ';I do not care what people think of me'; once u get that in your head, you can be able to conversate more. BEcause shy people seem to care alot about what others will think , like if they say something and it comes out stupid, thats our biggest mistake,ive learned to concetrate on me, and living life to the fullest, i don't wanna regrte it just because i was shy to speak up.... it takes time but you have to be willing to take risk and SPEAK up you can do it trust me...!!How do you change your personality?
i don't really know. i guess you just have to be more confident so you're more comfortable to talk to people.
just practice talking to people and remember that they might be nervous too so just be calm.
well don't change your personality...just try and start conversation with people more often...trying coming out of your bubble...meet new people...be confident...=)
i was like tht too b4 but then i met my friend who was shy at first but not as much as me and for some reason, me and ehr just became best friends and opend up to eachother and now we are more outgng... what im trying to say is, there is certain people who you will eventually change WITH... they may make you less shy and u can be moe open... just depends on people.
dont change your personality just be more out going and confident ....
You shouldnt change your personality. I was and still am really shy but if you get to know the person better you will stop being shy. If you need to, talk alot on like msn because its easier to talk about topics when your not face to face lol. but like use it to build confidence.
it depends on what personality you want
my friend wanted a fun outragous personality
so all of us went around and sang in our most horrible voices to some people we didn't know and we got laugh also she's not that afraid or shy anymore to go around and actually talk to people.
Just be yourself! I know that you said you were shy, but I'm sure that there is a whole other side to you! Just smile! People are very attracted to people who smile, so they will talk to you!
Make a joke! If you did something stupid coming in, and you are absolutely embarrassed, just laugh about it. It will hide your embarrassment and it will get the conversation flowing, they will most definitely have something to talk about so you wont have to talk the whole time!
Don't worry- relax! I have also been in this situation, I was sooo shy! But I found if you do those things, you would feel more confident and it shows. You will pick up things along the way, hints that I cant tell you, stuff that you know yourself that would help you like conversation, how different people like different things.
Good luck and I hope that I helped! xxx
you do not need to change your personality you need a boost of self confidence you need to look in the mirror and KNOW that you are an amazing girl. God made you you are special! i am sure you are a smart intelligent teen who is just passing through the insecurities of teenage years. just remember no one expects you to be anyone but your true self . never change your moral and beliefs to fit in a crowd. find friends who have commom interests and like you for you. Join a club next year at school get involved you will open up naturally and make alot of good friends, you have to step out of your comfort zone to achieve not being shy anymore. if you go to church maybe you could join a youth group over the summer or boys and girls clubs usually have great activities or how about asking parents about a summer camp week. good luck
hey there is no way to change your personality its something that you have to do .here try this when you wanna talk to someone think about things to say before you talk to them OK like if you wanna talk to someone the next day like practice all day in front of a mirror its works it did for me now i can talk to anybody I'm one of those girls like when you see a cute guy you got to have them so i made me change fast because there was alot of people that i have not talked to and its kinda weird to when you don't talk to people i got called weird but i don't anymore just try what i told you and tell me if it works my name in Kassandra m OK
YOU KNOW WHAT. YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE THIS BUT OTHER PEOPLO GET SHY AND NERVOUS TO WHEN THEIR AROUND OTHER PEOPLE. JUST BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE UNBELIEVABLY HOT,SMART, AND FUN TO BE AROUND AND ANYONE THAT COMES IN CONTACT WITH U WILL PICK UP THAT VIBE. tHE NEXT TIME YOU FEEL LIKE THIS. repeat in your head ......... it sounds silly but it works . you ready....... Im a super hot and amazing , YOU ARE LUCKY YOU GET TO TALK TO ME. TRY IT WORKS
I am 21 and i use ot have the same problem but you can't just change it overnight , im barely starting ot get the hang of it. You have to always remember that you have to think in the mode of ';I do not care what people think of me'; once u get that in your head, you can be able to conversate more. BEcause shy people seem to care alot about what others will think , like if they say something and it comes out stupid, thats our biggest mistake,ive learned to concetrate on me, and living life to the fullest, i don't wanna regrte it just because i was shy to speak up.... it takes time but you have to be willing to take risk and SPEAK up you can do it trust me...!!How do you change your personality?
i don't really know. i guess you just have to be more confident so you're more comfortable to talk to people.
just practice talking to people and remember that they might be nervous too so just be calm.
well don't change your personality...just try and start conversation with people more often...trying coming out of your bubble...meet new people...be confident...=)
i was like tht too b4 but then i met my friend who was shy at first but not as much as me and for some reason, me and ehr just became best friends and opend up to eachother and now we are more outgng... what im trying to say is, there is certain people who you will eventually change WITH... they may make you less shy and u can be moe open... just depends on people.
dont change your personality just be more out going and confident ....
You shouldnt change your personality. I was and still am really shy but if you get to know the person better you will stop being shy. If you need to, talk alot on like msn because its easier to talk about topics when your not face to face lol. but like use it to build confidence.
it depends on what personality you want
my friend wanted a fun outragous personality
so all of us went around and sang in our most horrible voices to some people we didn't know and we got laugh also she's not that afraid or shy anymore to go around and actually talk to people.
Just be yourself! I know that you said you were shy, but I'm sure that there is a whole other side to you! Just smile! People are very attracted to people who smile, so they will talk to you!
Make a joke! If you did something stupid coming in, and you are absolutely embarrassed, just laugh about it. It will hide your embarrassment and it will get the conversation flowing, they will most definitely have something to talk about so you wont have to talk the whole time!
Don't worry- relax! I have also been in this situation, I was sooo shy! But I found if you do those things, you would feel more confident and it shows. You will pick up things along the way, hints that I cant tell you, stuff that you know yourself that would help you like conversation, how different people like different things.
Good luck and I hope that I helped! xxx
you do not need to change your personality you need a boost of self confidence you need to look in the mirror and KNOW that you are an amazing girl. God made you you are special! i am sure you are a smart intelligent teen who is just passing through the insecurities of teenage years. just remember no one expects you to be anyone but your true self . never change your moral and beliefs to fit in a crowd. find friends who have commom interests and like you for you. Join a club next year at school get involved you will open up naturally and make alot of good friends, you have to step out of your comfort zone to achieve not being shy anymore. if you go to church maybe you could join a youth group over the summer or boys and girls clubs usually have great activities or how about asking parents about a summer camp week. good luck
hey there is no way to change your personality its something that you have to do .here try this when you wanna talk to someone think about things to say before you talk to them OK like if you wanna talk to someone the next day like practice all day in front of a mirror its works it did for me now i can talk to anybody I'm one of those girls like when you see a cute guy you got to have them so i made me change fast because there was alot of people that i have not talked to and its kinda weird to when you don't talk to people i got called weird but i don't anymore just try what i told you and tell me if it works my name in Kassandra m OK
YOU KNOW WHAT. YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE THIS BUT OTHER PEOPLO GET SHY AND NERVOUS TO WHEN THEIR AROUND OTHER PEOPLE. JUST BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE UNBELIEVABLY HOT,SMART, AND FUN TO BE AROUND AND ANYONE THAT COMES IN CONTACT WITH U WILL PICK UP THAT VIBE. tHE NEXT TIME YOU FEEL LIKE THIS. repeat in your head ......... it sounds silly but it works . you ready....... Im a super hot and amazing , YOU ARE LUCKY YOU GET TO TALK TO ME. TRY IT WORKS
How can you change your personality?
im just gonna say it....im a *****. I've tried many times to fix it, but every time i cant even go a whole day without being a *****. I dont want to lose anymore friends cuz of my bitchiness. And for all of those people that are gonna say something like ';just stop being a *****';, its not as easy as it looks.How can you change your personality?
get a better outlook on life. be optimistic. find the beauty in others. have friends keep you in line (tell them to tell you when your getting bitchy). its really in your hands. you need the will power. when you wanna be bitchy, just hold it in. bite your tongue. soon it will become routine and itll be much easier. good luck. be nice!How can you change your personality?
You can't change your personality because that is what you are, but you can change the way you act toward others. You can act nicer, and if you find yourself having trouble acting nice, then there's something really wrong here. Do little things that people appreciate, open doors for people and stand there if they are coming, compliment your friends, and ferme la bouche and listen.
People will notice it, and goodness is like a habit (a quote I remember) so make these things a habit.
try to view the world from a different point of view. Know that everything natural is beautiful. Maybe take some yoga classes and go for a walk. Or take a trip so you can get away from it all for a while. Go to an island or a place with some cool natural landmark. Talk to a yogi or a psycologist. And maybe get an animal. Those can sometimes help people be happier. Good luck! :)
Meditate, do things that you love for yourself. Is something stressing you out? Take care of it! Get a yoga dvd, walk your dog, make your favorite soup, check out a book- anything that will help you reach serenity will probably help you relax and stop being bitchy.
You can't change your temperament so I suggest you change your life experiences to more positive ones in the future. Maybe you need a big change in scenery.
You need to get into counseling to find out why you are this way. Once you find out why then you can work on how to change.
dont change it. your very unique4long distance relationship advice for going to a new school
get a better outlook on life. be optimistic. find the beauty in others. have friends keep you in line (tell them to tell you when your getting bitchy). its really in your hands. you need the will power. when you wanna be bitchy, just hold it in. bite your tongue. soon it will become routine and itll be much easier. good luck. be nice!How can you change your personality?
You can't change your personality because that is what you are, but you can change the way you act toward others. You can act nicer, and if you find yourself having trouble acting nice, then there's something really wrong here. Do little things that people appreciate, open doors for people and stand there if they are coming, compliment your friends, and ferme la bouche and listen.
People will notice it, and goodness is like a habit (a quote I remember) so make these things a habit.
try to view the world from a different point of view. Know that everything natural is beautiful. Maybe take some yoga classes and go for a walk. Or take a trip so you can get away from it all for a while. Go to an island or a place with some cool natural landmark. Talk to a yogi or a psycologist. And maybe get an animal. Those can sometimes help people be happier. Good luck! :)
Meditate, do things that you love for yourself. Is something stressing you out? Take care of it! Get a yoga dvd, walk your dog, make your favorite soup, check out a book- anything that will help you reach serenity will probably help you relax and stop being bitchy.
You can't change your temperament so I suggest you change your life experiences to more positive ones in the future. Maybe you need a big change in scenery.
You need to get into counseling to find out why you are this way. Once you find out why then you can work on how to change.
dont change it. your very unique
Any suggetions on how i can change my personality?
My friend is fighting me write now her birthday is tommorow! and she s tewlling me to stop textin her and i fell like killing myself i like ugy who likes down to earth people im not like that im not calm im wild!
i just want to killmyself vbecause my friend hates meAny suggetions on how i can change my personality?
MAYBE .... NO REALLY TO BE HONEST GET HELP HER BIRTHDAY WILL COME AND GO FORGET IT . TALK TO SOME ABOUT SAY NOW!!! ABOUT THE FACT U NEED THIS PERSON SO MUCH I MEAN REALLY COME ON TALK AND STUFF HAVE A CRY AND MOVE ON
i just want to killmyself vbecause my friend hates meAny suggetions on how i can change my personality?
MAYBE .... NO REALLY TO BE HONEST GET HELP HER BIRTHDAY WILL COME AND GO FORGET IT . TALK TO SOME ABOUT SAY NOW!!! ABOUT THE FACT U NEED THIS PERSON SO MUCH I MEAN REALLY COME ON TALK AND STUFF HAVE A CRY AND MOVE ON
How Do I Boost My Confidence And Change My Personality?
when i was in primary school i used to think i was pretty and used to do what i wanted where i wanted when i wanted and with who i wanted i used to be realy popular but then i got to secondary school and all of a sudden i lost my confidence i couldnt talk to people unless i knew them when im around people i havent known for long im quiet please help me get my confidence back .xHow Do I Boost My Confidence And Change My Personality?
Hi Tasha. You may find more answers if you post your question in another section (this part of the site is about reading and writing books). But I'll try to answer your question based on my experience.
Change can be difficult at any age. You left primary school where you had grown comfortable and confident, and then you were thrown in to secondary school with new kinds of pressure (both from school and friends), maybe some new people, definitely new expectations for you to live up to. All that will absolutely take some time to adjust to. That's perfectly natural.
First, there's a difference between being popular and being self-confident:
Being popular means that other people like you.
Being self-confident means that you like you.
The good news is that being 'popular' doesn't actually means anything at all - the way that people feel about you has everything to do with them, and almost nothing to do with you. (Have you noticed that people who are more insecure tend to be meaner? They're not mean because they don't like the other person; they're mean because they're insecure themselves.)
Self-confidence is much more fulfilling and much more REAL. It's what YOU think of YOURSELF. That has nothing to do with how pretty you are or how much other people like you. It has to do with how you treat yourself and other people. Do you follow your own values (things like honesty, keeping promises, being courteous and kind, etc.)? Do you respect yourself for the decisions that you make?
Consider this: every single moment, you are making a choice, whether you realize it or not. And the choices you make help shape your relationship with yourself - which is the most important relationship you will ever have in your life.
So if you want to raise your self-confidence, become aware of the choices that you make every moment and begin to choose them consciously. If you are standing next to someone whom you would like to speak to, even if you're nervous and don't know them well, just once make the choice to speak to them even if you're nervous. If you have the choice to say something nice about someone instead of saying something mean (even if it's more fun to say something mean), choose to say something nice. That way, you'll come to think of yourself as someone who says nice things about others, even if they don't like them. Doesn't that sound like someone you'd like to be?
If you really want to have a wonderful life full of self-confidence, make the choice to enjoy yourself and not worry too much about what anyone else thinks. This life is your golden coin - spend it exactly how YOU want to. That will make you the most self-confident person in the world.
Have a bright, positive, happy life!
.
Hi Tasha. You may find more answers if you post your question in another section (this part of the site is about reading and writing books). But I'll try to answer your question based on my experience.
Change can be difficult at any age. You left primary school where you had grown comfortable and confident, and then you were thrown in to secondary school with new kinds of pressure (both from school and friends), maybe some new people, definitely new expectations for you to live up to. All that will absolutely take some time to adjust to. That's perfectly natural.
First, there's a difference between being popular and being self-confident:
Being popular means that other people like you.
Being self-confident means that you like you.
The good news is that being 'popular' doesn't actually means anything at all - the way that people feel about you has everything to do with them, and almost nothing to do with you. (Have you noticed that people who are more insecure tend to be meaner? They're not mean because they don't like the other person; they're mean because they're insecure themselves.)
Self-confidence is much more fulfilling and much more REAL. It's what YOU think of YOURSELF. That has nothing to do with how pretty you are or how much other people like you. It has to do with how you treat yourself and other people. Do you follow your own values (things like honesty, keeping promises, being courteous and kind, etc.)? Do you respect yourself for the decisions that you make?
Consider this: every single moment, you are making a choice, whether you realize it or not. And the choices you make help shape your relationship with yourself - which is the most important relationship you will ever have in your life.
So if you want to raise your self-confidence, become aware of the choices that you make every moment and begin to choose them consciously. If you are standing next to someone whom you would like to speak to, even if you're nervous and don't know them well, just once make the choice to speak to them even if you're nervous. If you have the choice to say something nice about someone instead of saying something mean (even if it's more fun to say something mean), choose to say something nice. That way, you'll come to think of yourself as someone who says nice things about others, even if they don't like them. Doesn't that sound like someone you'd like to be?
If you really want to have a wonderful life full of self-confidence, make the choice to enjoy yourself and not worry too much about what anyone else thinks. This life is your golden coin - spend it exactly how YOU want to. That will make you the most self-confident person in the world.
Have a bright, positive, happy life!
.
Is there any way to change your personality?
i'd like to be more caring, equal, accepting, and unjealous. can i achieve this and how? i really do want to.Is there any way to change your personality?
You should never have to change who you are. And you will find that it is very hard to change the way you have been all your life. But you can change the things you do. For example, if you want to be more caring, pull your friends to your shoulder when they cry, talk to your parents late in the night when they need it, or simply hold the door open for a stranger walking out of a restraunt. you will find that over time, you will do this without thinking about it.Is there any way to change your personality?
no
It takes time, patience, ambition, endurence, passion, and inspiration. It's hard to change who you are. But you can.
I think you can change your _behavior_ and be more caring, equal, accepting and unjealous. As you see rewards for changing those _behaviors_, perhaps your feelings/personality will fall into line behind it.
I don't believe that this is something you can achieve overnight, but if you work on it then yes, you can change! Really wanting to change means that you have already started to change. What you need to do is try to think about what you are saying and doing, and make a concious effort to change what you don't like about it. Telling yourself that you want to be more caring towards other people isn't going to do anything until you actually act on that. Yes, changing your personality is very possible and within reach, and anybody who says that it isn't must not understand that the sky is the limit, and you can be any person you want to be.
Try counselling
A technique works on becoming those from the core may be
';to see the suffering of the others.';
The basic premise is that we all want happiness, but don't always know the best way to be happy and stay happy.
Technique: when you look into the person's eyes, deeply and gently you'll see that the person is suffering from wanting the same thing but not getting it or got it but afraid to lost it.
Then, you'll feel sadness for everyone involved and spontaneously feel more caring. The sense of equality happens instead of hostility.
Though, not always easy to be accepting from there on or unjealous, but by thinking how the other suffer (from jealousy, resentment or lack of sleep, tiredness, losing something they like...etc.) like you do, more space to work with your emotions and could sympathize the others' point of view. And then your own natural virtuous qualities will develop slowly but progressively.
Your personality will change and becoming more caring and please don't expect reciprocation. People will notice you're changing.
Wish this helps.
You should never have to change who you are. And you will find that it is very hard to change the way you have been all your life. But you can change the things you do. For example, if you want to be more caring, pull your friends to your shoulder when they cry, talk to your parents late in the night when they need it, or simply hold the door open for a stranger walking out of a restraunt. you will find that over time, you will do this without thinking about it.Is there any way to change your personality?
no
It takes time, patience, ambition, endurence, passion, and inspiration. It's hard to change who you are. But you can.
I think you can change your _behavior_ and be more caring, equal, accepting and unjealous. As you see rewards for changing those _behaviors_, perhaps your feelings/personality will fall into line behind it.
I don't believe that this is something you can achieve overnight, but if you work on it then yes, you can change! Really wanting to change means that you have already started to change. What you need to do is try to think about what you are saying and doing, and make a concious effort to change what you don't like about it. Telling yourself that you want to be more caring towards other people isn't going to do anything until you actually act on that. Yes, changing your personality is very possible and within reach, and anybody who says that it isn't must not understand that the sky is the limit, and you can be any person you want to be.
Try counselling
A technique works on becoming those from the core may be
';to see the suffering of the others.';
The basic premise is that we all want happiness, but don't always know the best way to be happy and stay happy.
Technique: when you look into the person's eyes, deeply and gently you'll see that the person is suffering from wanting the same thing but not getting it or got it but afraid to lost it.
Then, you'll feel sadness for everyone involved and spontaneously feel more caring. The sense of equality happens instead of hostility.
Though, not always easy to be accepting from there on or unjealous, but by thinking how the other suffer (from jealousy, resentment or lack of sleep, tiredness, losing something they like...etc.) like you do, more space to work with your emotions and could sympathize the others' point of view. And then your own natural virtuous qualities will develop slowly but progressively.
Your personality will change and becoming more caring and please don't expect reciprocation. People will notice you're changing.
Wish this helps.
HOW does your personality change when you are mad!!?
r personality different when you are mad
im usually very calm, and quiet but
for me when i get mad i can be very violent, loud . i tend to have a bad tempor anyway so yeah...HOW does your personality change when you are mad!!?
I throw things. I punch things [AKA the nearesst wall, haha.] And I shout - a lot. I'm not nice to be around when I'm properly angry, haha.HOW does your personality change when you are mad!!?
well i usually get either very silent or very very rude and i act very mean to everyone which i don't like about me
i get quiet, get this irritated expression on my face, %26amp; i thicken the walls i already put up around people. it usually ends in me having a yelling fit or crying (most likely the yelling fit).
I'm always mad.
i have a very very bad tempor
im usually very calm, and quiet but
for me when i get mad i can be very violent, loud . i tend to have a bad tempor anyway so yeah...HOW does your personality change when you are mad!!?
I throw things. I punch things [AKA the nearesst wall, haha.] And I shout - a lot. I'm not nice to be around when I'm properly angry, haha.HOW does your personality change when you are mad!!?
well i usually get either very silent or very very rude and i act very mean to everyone which i don't like about me
i get quiet, get this irritated expression on my face, %26amp; i thicken the walls i already put up around people. it usually ends in me having a yelling fit or crying (most likely the yelling fit).
I'm always mad.
i have a very very bad tempor
Can a kitten's personality change a lot?
Has any one had a kitten whose personality changed a lot as it grew up? For example it was really cuddly at first, but later didn't like to be held. Or it was shy and timid, but then became super social? I assume this must happen sometimes; I just wonder how common it would be.Can a kitten's personality change a lot?
I am a cat lover and have had cats my entire life. It took me a long time to come to the firm conclusion that cats change just like people do. I often chose kittens based on their color, how ';cute'; or playful I thought they were.
Now, I never take a cat that is still in the kitten stage because I really want a cat with a great personality and at that age, it is really hard to tell what they will be like. I think the best time to pick a cat is when they are around 7 - 10 months old. By this time, they have usually developed their pattern of behavior and if they are loving, affectionate and calm then they are a keeper (at least for me anyway).Can a kitten's personality change a lot?
yes, their personality can change when they get older
Approximately 75% of a kitten's personality is formed by the time it's 12 weeks old, and the remaining 25% is formed before the kitten is 6 months old. No kitten that I have ever known or heard of 'changed completely' in ways similar to the question you asked ... but I have owned cats that were 'standoffish' unless I was ill ... then they became very loving, slept beside me in bed and 'watched over me' until I got better ... then went back to being standoffish.
Yea, my kitten did this when I adopted him. He was super scared of me and then turned into psycho crazy hyper kitty, who wouldn't give me a peaceful night's rest, and then I got him neutered thinking it would calm him down, but no, he's worse and likes to play bite. Cats do change drastically from kitten to cat, it's just how they are.
Yea a lot of kittens change as they grow older, just like little kids change as they grow into adults. When my cat was a kitten she was cuddly and sometimes even fell asleep in peoples' laps but now it's almost impossible to get her on your lap! She's also mostly a loner and doesn't get along with other cats except her mama but she's starting to warm up to people a lil more. Also, my aunt had a kitten who loved people but now he hides everytime someone tries to come near him.
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I am a cat lover and have had cats my entire life. It took me a long time to come to the firm conclusion that cats change just like people do. I often chose kittens based on their color, how ';cute'; or playful I thought they were.
Now, I never take a cat that is still in the kitten stage because I really want a cat with a great personality and at that age, it is really hard to tell what they will be like. I think the best time to pick a cat is when they are around 7 - 10 months old. By this time, they have usually developed their pattern of behavior and if they are loving, affectionate and calm then they are a keeper (at least for me anyway).Can a kitten's personality change a lot?
yes, their personality can change when they get older
Approximately 75% of a kitten's personality is formed by the time it's 12 weeks old, and the remaining 25% is formed before the kitten is 6 months old. No kitten that I have ever known or heard of 'changed completely' in ways similar to the question you asked ... but I have owned cats that were 'standoffish' unless I was ill ... then they became very loving, slept beside me in bed and 'watched over me' until I got better ... then went back to being standoffish.
Yea, my kitten did this when I adopted him. He was super scared of me and then turned into psycho crazy hyper kitty, who wouldn't give me a peaceful night's rest, and then I got him neutered thinking it would calm him down, but no, he's worse and likes to play bite. Cats do change drastically from kitten to cat, it's just how they are.
Yea a lot of kittens change as they grow older, just like little kids change as they grow into adults. When my cat was a kitten she was cuddly and sometimes even fell asleep in peoples' laps but now it's almost impossible to get her on your lap! She's also mostly a loner and doesn't get along with other cats except her mama but she's starting to warm up to people a lil more. Also, my aunt had a kitten who loved people but now he hides everytime someone tries to come near him.
Yes, it can.
How do i change my personality?
everyone sees me as weak, prude, geek, and boring. i'm the friend you call for a crisis but not to the party. i want to change myself so much that when people talk to me they will say thats not her but it is her. i want to be someone totally different a new, better, stronger person that noone can hurt.How do i change my personality?
Most people have a ';default'; setting on certain attributes. You either HAVE these attributes, but they are suppressed or hidden (and all you have to do is uncover them) or this is not 'you.'
You might really be the life of the party, but are socially inhibited- if that is the case, then stretching those muscles will bring out the 'real' you.
You could just be introverted, with your interests lying in a direction that is not 'party crowd'... at that point, you don't have a hidden personality attribute.
You can differently learn to FAKE it- I think ANYONE can change themselves in any manner if enough effort it taken.
I think that you will find that once you make this change, and if you are successful, you will find it's not really what you thought it was.
however, it's one thing for us to TELL you this, and it's quite another to LIVE and learn.
By all means! try and change yourself. There is really no harm to exploring your possibilities at that point you will know if this is your hidden personality or your true nature.
what could the end results be?
You either discover your true nature, or you learn more about yourself.. I can't see a down side.
You change by putting yourself there- by being there. don't wait to be invited- just go to the party... search them out.How do i change my personality?
you cant just change your personality, theres no like, switch you can just press lol. why dont you start going out and doing more fun activities and stuff so that you dont seem boring? or change your style, just stuff that will make people think you are not so geeky etc
do what olivia newton john did in the movie ''grease''..john travolta dug it
Find the 7 dragon balls, then make your wish. Drugs are a more expensive option.
Embrace who you are, not who you wish to be.
What you lack is self confidence and self esteem. Remember, you can only be hurt if you allow the words of another over-ride how you feel about yourself. Otherwise, it doesn't matter what someone else says. Its just hot air, and your opinion is just as valid as their's is.
You could witness someone getting murdered, so you will get put in the witness protection program, then you will get a new name, possibly move countries and will get a fresh start in life, then you can be whoever you want to be...okay maybe not..... But talking to a psychologist could help, but just have more confidence in yourself, you gotta be like a boxer and not let anyone's hits land on you.
You can't change your personality. You should love yourself for who you are. And if no one wants to hangout with you at a party then they're not a TRUE friend. You may not be able to change your personality but can change your behavior. Try being more open. Maybe they don't call you for a party because you've never shown them that you want to party. The next time there's a party go...allow yourself to have fun. But be careful. Don't become someone that you're not. Work on your self esteem. You may even want to try counseling to help you get there. Good luck!
Most people have a ';default'; setting on certain attributes. You either HAVE these attributes, but they are suppressed or hidden (and all you have to do is uncover them) or this is not 'you.'
You might really be the life of the party, but are socially inhibited- if that is the case, then stretching those muscles will bring out the 'real' you.
You could just be introverted, with your interests lying in a direction that is not 'party crowd'... at that point, you don't have a hidden personality attribute.
You can differently learn to FAKE it- I think ANYONE can change themselves in any manner if enough effort it taken.
I think that you will find that once you make this change, and if you are successful, you will find it's not really what you thought it was.
however, it's one thing for us to TELL you this, and it's quite another to LIVE and learn.
By all means! try and change yourself. There is really no harm to exploring your possibilities at that point you will know if this is your hidden personality or your true nature.
what could the end results be?
You either discover your true nature, or you learn more about yourself.. I can't see a down side.
You change by putting yourself there- by being there. don't wait to be invited- just go to the party... search them out.How do i change my personality?
you cant just change your personality, theres no like, switch you can just press lol. why dont you start going out and doing more fun activities and stuff so that you dont seem boring? or change your style, just stuff that will make people think you are not so geeky etc
do what olivia newton john did in the movie ''grease''..john travolta dug it
Find the 7 dragon balls, then make your wish. Drugs are a more expensive option.
Embrace who you are, not who you wish to be.
What you lack is self confidence and self esteem. Remember, you can only be hurt if you allow the words of another over-ride how you feel about yourself. Otherwise, it doesn't matter what someone else says. Its just hot air, and your opinion is just as valid as their's is.
You could witness someone getting murdered, so you will get put in the witness protection program, then you will get a new name, possibly move countries and will get a fresh start in life, then you can be whoever you want to be...okay maybe not..... But talking to a psychologist could help, but just have more confidence in yourself, you gotta be like a boxer and not let anyone's hits land on you.
You can't change your personality. You should love yourself for who you are. And if no one wants to hangout with you at a party then they're not a TRUE friend. You may not be able to change your personality but can change your behavior. Try being more open. Maybe they don't call you for a party because you've never shown them that you want to party. The next time there's a party go...allow yourself to have fun. But be careful. Don't become someone that you're not. Work on your self esteem. You may even want to try counseling to help you get there. Good luck!
I hate myself, how do I change my personality?
I have this personality where people seem to enjoy picking on me. Ever since High School I've been too nice to people and they just take advantage of me. I thought it was just kids being kids, but still at the age of 25 I find myself being made fun of and having ';bullies';. I don't know if its my personality or what. Or maybe I'm too sensitive to guys being guys?I hate myself, how do I change my personality?
Well, whatever you do, don't stop being nice. There is plenty of ignorant arrogance in this world, and very little kindness and benevolence.
But, if hoping for advice, I would have to quote Socrates, and say ';The shortest and surest way to live with honor in the world is to be in reality what we would hope and appear to be; all human virtues increase and strengthen themselves by the practice and experience of them';
You just lack confidence brother, and you can't be cool unless you think you are.
That, and don't feed into it. Next time someone gives you ****, look bored. Cold, indifferent. Like there unbelievably unimportant. And if you can manage it, make a crack about being intellegent, because most bullies arnt. But dont force it. And dont be afraid.I hate myself, how do I change my personality?
Its easy to change your personality, just pick the one you want. Others perception of it will very anyway. For me its tattoos! I don't care what others think about them or myself for that matter. Its how they make me feel, and that controls my thoughts and that negative attitude I see from other people is gone! Im who I am and so are you. Those who pick on others ';bullies'; for the most park are nothing without who they seek out! Change your thoughts it WILL change your life
Separate who you are, a human deserving of dignity and respect and what you do, be nice. People seem to pick up on the idea that maybe you do not respect nor dignify yourself. Set limits, be good and nice, but stop any behavior that violates you dignity and you respect.
funny, i have always been a mocker and a bully. i have come to realize that had much to do with why nobody likes me anymore. so it works both ways. i guess breaking through the denial and seeing the light is the key. know it, experience the pain, and accept it or work on change. knowing it, accepting it is a long process and maybe that alone forces you to regroup and try other ways. it is like rebuilding an engine. first you gotta take it apart and replace worn parts and put it all back together. maybe it will be better than new if you do it right and don't cut corners with cheap parts.
The people that pick on you want you to hate yourself because they hate themselves.
They see you as an easy giddy pig for their problems. You have to remember that misery loves company.
You're around these people for a reason. Subconciously you might think that they are better then you.
That's why you let them get away with stuff. The best advice I can give you is to stay far away from negative people.
Stop being around (if you can) negative people. They just want to bring you down with them.
You have to go through life for the most part being alone. I think you need to concetrate on you before you make any rational decision to change yourself.
I mean is it really your personality that is causing these problems or is it the negative people who see something special in you, that they want to beat it out so you can feel as low as them?
Also being nice and being senstive is a good thing. I wish more people were like that then there might be a better world.
It is important to change for the better, but remember that its probably not you who needs to change, maybe you should change the people your around.
I think that from within we know who we are and we should never change that. Our gut will tell us when we should change little aspects of us but the core of us remains the same if you know what I mean. Don't change for others change if you want to for yourself but don't become someone you aren't.
Everyone as hard as it is, needs to learn to become a stronger person and stand up for themselves. Say to yourself I am who I am don't like it then tough -beeep-. Don't be effected by others making fun of you feel pity for them for those who make fun of you are the ones who are upset with themselves so therefore they resort to making fun of others so they feel ';above'; you and others.
ok, first you must have a role model, or a 'theme'
practise this, and keep telling yourself the whole day how this role model would act in these situations
if you mess up, do it right next time
after a while it will become natural to you, so dont worry
if all else fails, guys will be guys and unfortunately theres nothing you can do about it
wow...I'm sorry to hear that.....but you shouldn't change for anyone..but if you really feel its your personality...well do you laugh too much..you know play around and stuff...are you annoying to others...talk to much?? well if you do want to change you have to find out what it is that make people dislike you....
Ask yourself this:
do you hate yourself because of how people have treated you?
or do you hate yourself because you've had horrible people treat you like crap?
Do you want to change your personality because people have picked on you + you want to conform + be accepted by them?
Let me begin to say that you do NOT deserve that! People treat others bad so they make themselves feel less weak + more in power.
I would advise you to stick up for yourself! Silence does more than words ever could.
If something really bothers you however + you can't let it go + you feel you would regret it if you didn't say anything, speak UP! God gave you a voice! Use it!
Most people are always going to be a jerks + it's a part of life. I'm not saying it's right but the greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
I would advise you to meet people who will encourage you + be there for you + show you that there is good in the world + people that care.
You do not in any way shape or form deserve that kind of treatment from people! You are worth so much more than that! What they are saying is lies to bring you down. Believe that + realize that. The best part about lies is that THEY ARE LIES. THEY AREN'T THE TRUTH! Why listen to that?
Words can hurt. I'm not going to sugar coat it. It takes strength to lift your head up high + not sink down to their level + be the better person.
Your situation + quest for strength is in my prayers.
You sound like a nice person. Sometimes people target the nice person because they feel like they can get away with being a jerk. Are you surrounding yourself with unkind people?
My next question is what is your self esteem like? When you said you hate yourself, it gives me the impression that your self esteem is not that great. Jerks may think that you have no confidence in your self, so they make you a target.
You may need to distance yourself from these ';bullies'; and surround yourself with people who treat you kindly and respect you.
Well, whatever you do, don't stop being nice. There is plenty of ignorant arrogance in this world, and very little kindness and benevolence.
But, if hoping for advice, I would have to quote Socrates, and say ';The shortest and surest way to live with honor in the world is to be in reality what we would hope and appear to be; all human virtues increase and strengthen themselves by the practice and experience of them';
You just lack confidence brother, and you can't be cool unless you think you are.
That, and don't feed into it. Next time someone gives you ****, look bored. Cold, indifferent. Like there unbelievably unimportant. And if you can manage it, make a crack about being intellegent, because most bullies arnt. But dont force it. And dont be afraid.I hate myself, how do I change my personality?
Its easy to change your personality, just pick the one you want. Others perception of it will very anyway. For me its tattoos! I don't care what others think about them or myself for that matter. Its how they make me feel, and that controls my thoughts and that negative attitude I see from other people is gone! Im who I am and so are you. Those who pick on others ';bullies'; for the most park are nothing without who they seek out! Change your thoughts it WILL change your life
Separate who you are, a human deserving of dignity and respect and what you do, be nice. People seem to pick up on the idea that maybe you do not respect nor dignify yourself. Set limits, be good and nice, but stop any behavior that violates you dignity and you respect.
funny, i have always been a mocker and a bully. i have come to realize that had much to do with why nobody likes me anymore. so it works both ways. i guess breaking through the denial and seeing the light is the key. know it, experience the pain, and accept it or work on change. knowing it, accepting it is a long process and maybe that alone forces you to regroup and try other ways. it is like rebuilding an engine. first you gotta take it apart and replace worn parts and put it all back together. maybe it will be better than new if you do it right and don't cut corners with cheap parts.
The people that pick on you want you to hate yourself because they hate themselves.
They see you as an easy giddy pig for their problems. You have to remember that misery loves company.
You're around these people for a reason. Subconciously you might think that they are better then you.
That's why you let them get away with stuff. The best advice I can give you is to stay far away from negative people.
Stop being around (if you can) negative people. They just want to bring you down with them.
You have to go through life for the most part being alone. I think you need to concetrate on you before you make any rational decision to change yourself.
I mean is it really your personality that is causing these problems or is it the negative people who see something special in you, that they want to beat it out so you can feel as low as them?
Also being nice and being senstive is a good thing. I wish more people were like that then there might be a better world.
It is important to change for the better, but remember that its probably not you who needs to change, maybe you should change the people your around.
I think that from within we know who we are and we should never change that. Our gut will tell us when we should change little aspects of us but the core of us remains the same if you know what I mean. Don't change for others change if you want to for yourself but don't become someone you aren't.
Everyone as hard as it is, needs to learn to become a stronger person and stand up for themselves. Say to yourself I am who I am don't like it then tough -beeep-. Don't be effected by others making fun of you feel pity for them for those who make fun of you are the ones who are upset with themselves so therefore they resort to making fun of others so they feel ';above'; you and others.
ok, first you must have a role model, or a 'theme'
practise this, and keep telling yourself the whole day how this role model would act in these situations
if you mess up, do it right next time
after a while it will become natural to you, so dont worry
if all else fails, guys will be guys and unfortunately theres nothing you can do about it
wow...I'm sorry to hear that.....but you shouldn't change for anyone..but if you really feel its your personality...well do you laugh too much..you know play around and stuff...are you annoying to others...talk to much?? well if you do want to change you have to find out what it is that make people dislike you....
Ask yourself this:
do you hate yourself because of how people have treated you?
or do you hate yourself because you've had horrible people treat you like crap?
Do you want to change your personality because people have picked on you + you want to conform + be accepted by them?
Let me begin to say that you do NOT deserve that! People treat others bad so they make themselves feel less weak + more in power.
I would advise you to stick up for yourself! Silence does more than words ever could.
If something really bothers you however + you can't let it go + you feel you would regret it if you didn't say anything, speak UP! God gave you a voice! Use it!
Most people are always going to be a jerks + it's a part of life. I'm not saying it's right but the greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
I would advise you to meet people who will encourage you + be there for you + show you that there is good in the world + people that care.
You do not in any way shape or form deserve that kind of treatment from people! You are worth so much more than that! What they are saying is lies to bring you down. Believe that + realize that. The best part about lies is that THEY ARE LIES. THEY AREN'T THE TRUTH! Why listen to that?
Words can hurt. I'm not going to sugar coat it. It takes strength to lift your head up high + not sink down to their level + be the better person.
Your situation + quest for strength is in my prayers.
You sound like a nice person. Sometimes people target the nice person because they feel like they can get away with being a jerk. Are you surrounding yourself with unkind people?
My next question is what is your self esteem like? When you said you hate yourself, it gives me the impression that your self esteem is not that great. Jerks may think that you have no confidence in your self, so they make you a target.
You may need to distance yourself from these ';bullies'; and surround yourself with people who treat you kindly and respect you.
Money, looks, personality, all change so what's most important?
Ok, you are dating this funny, rich model. He gets into a bad car wreck. Now his modeling career is over. No money. His face is scarred for life. His personality changed too, maybe a combination of brain damage and the events that happened. People always say personality and humor is most important in their spouse followed by looks, money , etc. When people want to be with someone, they have a reason. If it's because they like being around them because of their personality, how is that any different than a girl wanting to be with a rich man? Both guys have something the girl wants. People change all the time. The divorce rate in America is 50%. Why is it that personality is the ultimate thing people are looking for?Money, looks, personality, all change so what's most important?
Because personality is who they really are. Ok the real reason people mainly say they look for personality is because they are afraid of being called shallow if they say something else like looks but then again there are people who genuinely like someone because they just like being with them. People generally look down upon women being rich men for their money because it is considered shallow. It is all fear of being characterized as something negative. Personality is in most people's opinino more important then money and more generally accepted so thats why.Money, looks, personality, all change so what's most important?
Personality is what makes a person! It can actually make someone very attractive.
Money is a bad foundation for a relationship. People in the past used to marry with no or very little money, but they worked through it together and many of them ended up married till the end.
because some people really do care about someone's personality. I mean of course looks matter, because for a lot of people that's what the initial attraction is. A good personality is what keeps the two people together. what the problem is with looks is that people get too caught up in what is defined as pretty or nice looking. Some people like eyes, some people like a nice smile, some people like the other physical features. Everyone has their own definition of what is pretty and what may be pretty for someone else may be ugly to another person. So you can say looks matter but it depends on the person what kind of looks matter to them.
Personality is usually constant once you reach a certain age. Your personality depends on where you are in your life because some people go through things that change their life completely and it affects their personality. I think it happens mostly during the teen years and up to mid and late 20s because you're trying to figure out who you are and what you want in life. In some people though, certain characteristics never change. Like someone who is caring, or outgoing and ambitious. These things tend to stay with someone no matter what.
Now the difference between someone wanting someone for their personality or their money is that money is seen as something that is superficial and can change easily. Most people see a personality as unchanging and it is to a certain degree. But if you go out with a rich man because he has money it sounds like you want someone to support you so you don't have to. And if something happens and he loses all his money and you depend on him for support then you're out of luck. If you love them for their personality and that changes then you'll still have the stability you had before.
I think the divorce rate is so high because people rush into marriage thinking it will be easy and they expect everything to be easy and when it's not they split. My grandparents fight all the time and they've been married for decades and their still together. So I guess some people just can't handle marriage.
Because personality is who they really are. Ok the real reason people mainly say they look for personality is because they are afraid of being called shallow if they say something else like looks but then again there are people who genuinely like someone because they just like being with them. People generally look down upon women being rich men for their money because it is considered shallow. It is all fear of being characterized as something negative. Personality is in most people's opinino more important then money and more generally accepted so thats why.Money, looks, personality, all change so what's most important?
Personality is what makes a person! It can actually make someone very attractive.
Money is a bad foundation for a relationship. People in the past used to marry with no or very little money, but they worked through it together and many of them ended up married till the end.
because some people really do care about someone's personality. I mean of course looks matter, because for a lot of people that's what the initial attraction is. A good personality is what keeps the two people together. what the problem is with looks is that people get too caught up in what is defined as pretty or nice looking. Some people like eyes, some people like a nice smile, some people like the other physical features. Everyone has their own definition of what is pretty and what may be pretty for someone else may be ugly to another person. So you can say looks matter but it depends on the person what kind of looks matter to them.
Personality is usually constant once you reach a certain age. Your personality depends on where you are in your life because some people go through things that change their life completely and it affects their personality. I think it happens mostly during the teen years and up to mid and late 20s because you're trying to figure out who you are and what you want in life. In some people though, certain characteristics never change. Like someone who is caring, or outgoing and ambitious. These things tend to stay with someone no matter what.
Now the difference between someone wanting someone for their personality or their money is that money is seen as something that is superficial and can change easily. Most people see a personality as unchanging and it is to a certain degree. But if you go out with a rich man because he has money it sounds like you want someone to support you so you don't have to. And if something happens and he loses all his money and you depend on him for support then you're out of luck. If you love them for their personality and that changes then you'll still have the stability you had before.
I think the divorce rate is so high because people rush into marriage thinking it will be easy and they expect everything to be easy and when it's not they split. My grandparents fight all the time and they've been married for decades and their still together. So I guess some people just can't handle marriage.
What are 4 reasons how addiction to alcohol and drugs can change your personality?
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THANKS SO MUCHWhat are 4 reasons how addiction to alcohol and drugs can change your personality?
1) making you mean
2)making you abusive
3)might have sex unknowingly (you will feel different but not remember what happened)
...and 4)you will become depressed when you find out that you are dying from overdose
*stay above the influence :)What are 4 reasons how addiction to alcohol and drugs can change your personality?
I believe you need to answer by yourself to that question
1. Violence
2. memory loss
3. anger issues
4. kills brain cells
1. less concerned with honesty
2. lose interest in hobbies.
3. less committed to responsibilities.
4. less concerned with how your behaviour affects those around you.
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THANKS SO MUCHWhat are 4 reasons how addiction to alcohol and drugs can change your personality?
1) making you mean
2)making you abusive
3)might have sex unknowingly (you will feel different but not remember what happened)
...and 4)you will become depressed when you find out that you are dying from overdose
*stay above the influence :)What are 4 reasons how addiction to alcohol and drugs can change your personality?
I believe you need to answer by yourself to that question
1. Violence
2. memory loss
3. anger issues
4. kills brain cells
1. less concerned with honesty
2. lose interest in hobbies.
3. less committed to responsibilities.
4. less concerned with how your behaviour affects those around you.
How do I change my personality & study habits?
My life is starting to TICK ME OFF! Okay, I got everything from looks, money, friends and kindness. AND IT'S BUGGING ME!
Most of my friends only see me as a BANK from which they can withdraw from ANYTIME. Some guys from school misinterpret my kindness and think I'M GAY! THAT IS AN INSULT! I'm a happy-go-lucky person and I want to be a studious, quiet and pensive person. Being bubly won't help me through college! I really wanna change. Any advice?How do I change my personality %26amp; study habits?
If you want to change yourself... you first have to change your mind.How do I change my personality %26amp; study habits?
become an a s s
I think no one can change his personality cause its a part of ourselves...
what if you explain your feelings and resentment to your friends??
and if it don`t work you can always change friends!!!
but you can`t change your personality as your personality is what YOU are
Just be yourself. If you're true to yourself, everything else will work itself out. Trying to become someone else does not solve problems, it just makes things more complicated. If that is the way your ';friends'; see you, I don't think they are really your friends. If someone is bothering you, sit down and have a talk with them. Tell them who you really are and if they don't accept you for who you are, then they are not your true friends.
Learn to deal with it. If your friends see you as a bank, then I think you need new friends who like you for you. If people think you are gay...then get a girlfriend xD.
i assume ur in high school. well when i was in h.s. i really wanted to change too. the hardest thing about changing when all your friends are around, is that they all expect you to behave your old way, the ways your trying to change. so then you get the inevitable barrage of 'whats wrong' ' are you okay', and enough of that can drive a person mad. So my advice to you is to move away for college, far far away. Its the best way to redefine yourself b/c your friends aren't around to define you based on who you used to be. After you move away, its just up to you to not fall into the same patterns that bother you so much about yourself now, thats the real tricky part when ur trying to make new friends. But it is possible, hard, time consuming, and confusing at times, but possible.
You need to have clear goals on the kinds of changes that you hope to make in future. Once you've set your mind on it and plan on how to improve yourself, be it in studies, character or habits or perhaps the way you want to be treated by others, only then will you be able to make that first step.
Keep it mind that there will be many obstacles along the way. You may lack confidence especially when your ';friends'; start to treat you differently. Hence, you need to seek moral support and advice from others who believe in your true potential and who have your best interests at heart. I don' think that being outgoing is a weakness. However, you can be more selective in making friends and not allow them to take advantage of your kindness. Be friendly but firm.
Hope it works for you. :)
Be obstinate, nasty, mean and irritable. When they ask you why you have changed so much, then tell them straight out!
Don't be used as a money-lending institute. If you have allowed it you cannot expect anything else, which means stop it straight away, ask for your money back and be consequent!
As for those misled guys thinking you're are gay, leave them on the wayside, let them think what they want and get on with your own life. It will burn them up inside to see you going your own way! Just be yourself !
sit down, draw up a list of what it is you don't like about yourself, leave enough room to develop a plan of how you are going to change this. I'm sensing that you really don't have a lot of true Friends, you know, one that just likes to hang with you because you share a lot of interests, and wouldn't ask you for money if he was in major financial trouble. The first thing I suggest, STOP giving out money, you are being used and definitely not respected. A real Friend wouldn't be bumming money off you, but that doesn't stop you as a real Friend from recognizing the Friends need and offering to help.cat how to flirt with men
Most of my friends only see me as a BANK from which they can withdraw from ANYTIME. Some guys from school misinterpret my kindness and think I'M GAY! THAT IS AN INSULT! I'm a happy-go-lucky person and I want to be a studious, quiet and pensive person. Being bubly won't help me through college! I really wanna change. Any advice?How do I change my personality %26amp; study habits?
If you want to change yourself... you first have to change your mind.How do I change my personality %26amp; study habits?
become an a s s
I think no one can change his personality cause its a part of ourselves...
what if you explain your feelings and resentment to your friends??
and if it don`t work you can always change friends!!!
but you can`t change your personality as your personality is what YOU are
Just be yourself. If you're true to yourself, everything else will work itself out. Trying to become someone else does not solve problems, it just makes things more complicated. If that is the way your ';friends'; see you, I don't think they are really your friends. If someone is bothering you, sit down and have a talk with them. Tell them who you really are and if they don't accept you for who you are, then they are not your true friends.
Learn to deal with it. If your friends see you as a bank, then I think you need new friends who like you for you. If people think you are gay...then get a girlfriend xD.
i assume ur in high school. well when i was in h.s. i really wanted to change too. the hardest thing about changing when all your friends are around, is that they all expect you to behave your old way, the ways your trying to change. so then you get the inevitable barrage of 'whats wrong' ' are you okay', and enough of that can drive a person mad. So my advice to you is to move away for college, far far away. Its the best way to redefine yourself b/c your friends aren't around to define you based on who you used to be. After you move away, its just up to you to not fall into the same patterns that bother you so much about yourself now, thats the real tricky part when ur trying to make new friends. But it is possible, hard, time consuming, and confusing at times, but possible.
You need to have clear goals on the kinds of changes that you hope to make in future. Once you've set your mind on it and plan on how to improve yourself, be it in studies, character or habits or perhaps the way you want to be treated by others, only then will you be able to make that first step.
Keep it mind that there will be many obstacles along the way. You may lack confidence especially when your ';friends'; start to treat you differently. Hence, you need to seek moral support and advice from others who believe in your true potential and who have your best interests at heart. I don' think that being outgoing is a weakness. However, you can be more selective in making friends and not allow them to take advantage of your kindness. Be friendly but firm.
Hope it works for you. :)
Be obstinate, nasty, mean and irritable. When they ask you why you have changed so much, then tell them straight out!
Don't be used as a money-lending institute. If you have allowed it you cannot expect anything else, which means stop it straight away, ask for your money back and be consequent!
As for those misled guys thinking you're are gay, leave them on the wayside, let them think what they want and get on with your own life. It will burn them up inside to see you going your own way! Just be yourself !
sit down, draw up a list of what it is you don't like about yourself, leave enough room to develop a plan of how you are going to change this. I'm sensing that you really don't have a lot of true Friends, you know, one that just likes to hang with you because you share a lot of interests, and wouldn't ask you for money if he was in major financial trouble. The first thing I suggest, STOP giving out money, you are being used and definitely not respected. A real Friend wouldn't be bumming money off you, but that doesn't stop you as a real Friend from recognizing the Friends need and offering to help.
How can i change my personality?
i know this sounds kind of dumb but i want and out going fun personality. like i love Greek people there so fun and everything i a junior in highschool and i want to be like that. i dont know if im just not or what help?How can i change my personality?
I'm Greek lolHow can i change my personality?
you just kind of have to get comforable with yourself and not really care what people think. because if you care too much what people think your not going to say or do anything so they wont make fun of you or somehting. i used to be very shy and i still kinda am but i am more outgoing because i really dont care as much what people say.
Being Greek has nothing to do with your personality.
Okay, so you're saying you want to have fun?
Uhh...smile and laugh and don't take everything so seriously then.
I don't think Yahoo Answers is the place for this kind of thing...
i was a b*tch in middle school. and it took me a while to realize... but once i had realized i thought about everything i said to ppl, and what impression it would leave on them, i wanted to be a good person and im now proud to say i am :)
if you want to change then change, it sounds alot harder then it really is...
Do a lot of drugs
I'm Greek lolHow can i change my personality?
you just kind of have to get comforable with yourself and not really care what people think. because if you care too much what people think your not going to say or do anything so they wont make fun of you or somehting. i used to be very shy and i still kinda am but i am more outgoing because i really dont care as much what people say.
Being Greek has nothing to do with your personality.
Okay, so you're saying you want to have fun?
Uhh...smile and laugh and don't take everything so seriously then.
I don't think Yahoo Answers is the place for this kind of thing...
i was a b*tch in middle school. and it took me a while to realize... but once i had realized i thought about everything i said to ppl, and what impression it would leave on them, i wanted to be a good person and im now proud to say i am :)
if you want to change then change, it sounds alot harder then it really is...
Do a lot of drugs
When friends change, how does it make you feel and how do you react?
When friends you have known for years change personality wise, does it make you feel bad? I'm almost 30. Two of my co-workers are friends I've had for 15+ years either from high school or old jobs. They both are really nice people and easy to get along with, but they change completely depending on who is around. It's extreme changes. They don't seem to be bothered by it or notice it, but it's irritating to me. Do you think this is normal for me to feel weird? It's almost depressing! Anyone else experience this?When friends change, how does it make you feel and how do you react?
I've been through it too many times to be bothered by it. I know how I want to be treated by my friends and if the people who want to be around me can't comply, I don't need them in my life. If the change isn't one that bothers me, I just look at them and go, ';Well, huh...'; and be friends with whatever they seem to have reinvented themselves into.
I've been through it too many times to be bothered by it. I know how I want to be treated by my friends and if the people who want to be around me can't comply, I don't need them in my life. If the change isn't one that bothers me, I just look at them and go, ';Well, huh...'; and be friends with whatever they seem to have reinvented themselves into.
How can I change my personality?
Okay, so this is so silly. But I take things too seriously.
When people seem to joke with me, I take it straight to heart?
What am I meant to do because sometimes it feels like im the only one that gets teased. Is it just me?
I need help :(How can I change my personality?
It's okay DON'T change your personality your perfect the way you are God made you that way so don't change.Maybe you could losen up a bit... I;m not crazy but pray and ask God to help you losen up it works! Don't give up if this dosent happen right away! Also don't pray the problem pray the answer like ';Dear God, Thanks for letting me losen up...'; Have faith in this!
When people seem to joke with me, I take it straight to heart?
What am I meant to do because sometimes it feels like im the only one that gets teased. Is it just me?
I need help :(How can I change my personality?
It's okay DON'T change your personality your perfect the way you are God made you that way so don't change.Maybe you could losen up a bit... I;m not crazy but pray and ask God to help you losen up it works! Don't give up if this dosent happen right away! Also don't pray the problem pray the answer like ';Dear God, Thanks for letting me losen up...'; Have faith in this!
How can i change my personality and be more active?
is there a way for me to become more nice, friendly, funny and enjoy from that?How can i change my personality and be more active?
This is a easy answer
you just Do it. you are in-control of your
self. no one else can help you. Just get
out be more active and want to change.
that I think would be a good first step.How can i change my personality and be more active?
Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
well.... if you dont have many friends this could make you depressed,boring and not very lively, but if you get talking to some more people and befriend people, you will have more people to talk to and have more interesting conversations and then you will be happier, you will obviously be nice to new friends, tell them jokes you have already told old friends, and yeah :)
This is a easy answer
you just Do it. you are in-control of your
self. no one else can help you. Just get
out be more active and want to change.
that I think would be a good first step.How can i change my personality and be more active?
Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
well.... if you dont have many friends this could make you depressed,boring and not very lively, but if you get talking to some more people and befriend people, you will have more people to talk to and have more interesting conversations and then you will be happier, you will obviously be nice to new friends, tell them jokes you have already told old friends, and yeah :)
How can i change my personality?
i really dont like the way i act, and i see neither do other people.
im loud, obnoxious and just tend to act stupid.
i really want to change that, and boy ive tried but its hard i annoy myself with all this too what are some steps i can take to change it?How can i change my personality?
In my experience, nothing is more universal among our collective existence than our ability to change. Change can seem daunting initially. Try setting small goals at first. For example, instead of resolving to no longer act ';stupid';, which is a character flaw we all have at least a little of, make a resolution to talk less and listen more. Everybody loves being heard, hence our general capacity to become obnoxious. There's nothing others love more then feeling they have a person truly interested in their life. Be that person.How can i change my personality?
first of all don't do something that can affect to u,u can change ur personalities by means of socializing with others
maybe u will learn a lot of thingswindows xp finger nails and toe nails
im loud, obnoxious and just tend to act stupid.
i really want to change that, and boy ive tried but its hard i annoy myself with all this too what are some steps i can take to change it?How can i change my personality?
In my experience, nothing is more universal among our collective existence than our ability to change. Change can seem daunting initially. Try setting small goals at first. For example, instead of resolving to no longer act ';stupid';, which is a character flaw we all have at least a little of, make a resolution to talk less and listen more. Everybody loves being heard, hence our general capacity to become obnoxious. There's nothing others love more then feeling they have a person truly interested in their life. Be that person.How can i change my personality?
first of all don't do something that can affect to u,u can change ur personalities by means of socializing with others
maybe u will learn a lot of things
How do i change my Personality?
I'm 15 nearly 16, i am Intelligent, hard working, friendly and quirt. Recently i had a relationship and i noticed that i asked ans talked about sex a lot, this is bad to me, idon't wont a sex driven relationship i wont a serious relationship how do i stop my self thing about sex and asking my girlfriend for sex? please help meHow do i change my Personality?
You can't change who you are for the most part, but what you can do is learn how to hide it. Just lie, lie, and lie some more. People who know how to lie are the best at charming others.How do i change my Personality?
just dont fink about it???... x
If you're 15 use some proper grammar if you want an answer.
ok it's typical of guys of this age to think about sex ALL the time. and for girls too. its normal i think. there's no teenager who doesn't think about sex. just relax and enjoy it :P
Your almost 16 and your hormones are just raging right now. Thinking about sex is normal at this age but you have to learn to control it. Before the topic turns to sex change the subject. Don't let your hormones ruin your relationships.
You're aware of the problem so you have already begun a positive change.
At your age and a guy I would expect you to be thinking about sex a lot!
Don't worry - you sound okay. It's normal.
You dont need to change your personality to do this, all you need to do is come up with different ways to get your mind off it such as when you are with your girlfriend, go out and do something. Dont just stay inside and hangout there, it brings thoughts of sexual activity more.
You want your ';wants and needs'; to be accepted. Therefore, you should identify this when you sense your relationship is moving from platonic to more serious and sexually oriented. It is your responsibility to identify what you want and/or do not want in a relationshipwant.. You must also be willing to accept that your date may decide to end the current platonic relationship. If so, you were able to be heard. Whether or not your friend accepts your response, is totally their responsibility.
Its not your personality, its your control panel, you need to keep tabs on.
Whats quirt??
anyway, step 1 = identification. Identify what you need to change and what you need to acheive. I.e. the undesirable and the desirable
step 2 = imagine how you would be if you were your ideal self. Constantly imagine it. It'll start to happen by itself
step 3 = every time you act like your current self, be aware of it and stop it
Change should happen naturally and over a period of time if youre strict with yourself about the 3 steps
You can't change who you are for the most part, but what you can do is learn how to hide it. Just lie, lie, and lie some more. People who know how to lie are the best at charming others.How do i change my Personality?
just dont fink about it???... x
If you're 15 use some proper grammar if you want an answer.
ok it's typical of guys of this age to think about sex ALL the time. and for girls too. its normal i think. there's no teenager who doesn't think about sex. just relax and enjoy it :P
Your almost 16 and your hormones are just raging right now. Thinking about sex is normal at this age but you have to learn to control it. Before the topic turns to sex change the subject. Don't let your hormones ruin your relationships.
You're aware of the problem so you have already begun a positive change.
At your age and a guy I would expect you to be thinking about sex a lot!
Don't worry - you sound okay. It's normal.
You dont need to change your personality to do this, all you need to do is come up with different ways to get your mind off it such as when you are with your girlfriend, go out and do something. Dont just stay inside and hangout there, it brings thoughts of sexual activity more.
You want your ';wants and needs'; to be accepted. Therefore, you should identify this when you sense your relationship is moving from platonic to more serious and sexually oriented. It is your responsibility to identify what you want and/or do not want in a relationshipwant.. You must also be willing to accept that your date may decide to end the current platonic relationship. If so, you were able to be heard. Whether or not your friend accepts your response, is totally their responsibility.
Its not your personality, its your control panel, you need to keep tabs on.
Whats quirt??
anyway, step 1 = identification. Identify what you need to change and what you need to acheive. I.e. the undesirable and the desirable
step 2 = imagine how you would be if you were your ideal self. Constantly imagine it. It'll start to happen by itself
step 3 = every time you act like your current self, be aware of it and stop it
Change should happen naturally and over a period of time if youre strict with yourself about the 3 steps
Can you help me. i need a skater hairstyle and i want to change my personality completely please help.?
im 13 and i need a skater hairstyle and i want to change my personality completely. i want to not cuss as much. can you tell me what a good skating hairstyle is please. and if there is how can i get a skating personality.Can you help me. i need a skater hairstyle and i want to change my personality completely please help.?
look man, im 18 and have been at it for 7 years, and the one thing you need to know, is there is no ';skate hair';. The only real legit skate hair is your normal haircut, but smothered in nasty greasy oily dirty crap. Find a haircut that fits you for who you are, and not who you want to be and you will be a lot better off. but dont wash it for a week hahahaha
second, be yourself. People, especialy skaters, can tell when you are trying to be someone else, and will not accept you at all. The best thing to do is just be chill and easy going. It also helps if you try to skate. Even if you arent that good people will see that you are trying and probably give you advice on how to get better. Legit skaters arent judgemental like that.
Email me if this helps or if you got any other questionsCan you help me. i need a skater hairstyle and i want to change my personality completely please help.?
heres a good one:
http://www.all4humor.com/images/files/Stupid%20Haircut.jpg
or something like this longer:
http://media.photobucket.com/image/skater%20hair/faceVSknife/Ryan%20Sheckler/9.jpg
shorter:
http://www.digitalbattle.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/tony-hawk.jpg
dude, personality aren't something you can just ';change';. EASE yourself into what you want to be, but take it in little bitty steps to avoid looking like a poser. changing your hairstyle all at once can look fake, start by buying a few skater-esque items, and integrate them into your wardrobe. Keep adding on to this, replacing your old style with the new, replacing some of your old friends with the new, and then go complete your look with an awesome hair do (very shaggy, and something that doesn't look like your put a whole lot of effort into it)
wow, you don't just ';change'; your personality, that means that you're not being youself, you worded that horribly :(.
what you can do is though, make your vioce sound skater a bit more [just type in skater vioces on youtube or google], also look up skater hairstyles on google/youtube, and you can look up the skater clothing style aswell.
and dude, skaters usually cuss a good bit, just saying. or atleast the ones i hang out with, and i have alolta skater friends, and i'm kinda skater myself.
don't change your personality cause you can't really do that, but you can chenge you voice a bit, not to were everyone just plain out notices, but enough to get the point across.
look man, im 18 and have been at it for 7 years, and the one thing you need to know, is there is no ';skate hair';. The only real legit skate hair is your normal haircut, but smothered in nasty greasy oily dirty crap. Find a haircut that fits you for who you are, and not who you want to be and you will be a lot better off. but dont wash it for a week hahahaha
second, be yourself. People, especialy skaters, can tell when you are trying to be someone else, and will not accept you at all. The best thing to do is just be chill and easy going. It also helps if you try to skate. Even if you arent that good people will see that you are trying and probably give you advice on how to get better. Legit skaters arent judgemental like that.
Email me if this helps or if you got any other questionsCan you help me. i need a skater hairstyle and i want to change my personality completely please help.?
heres a good one:
http://www.all4humor.com/images/files/Stupid%20Haircut.jpg
or something like this longer:
http://media.photobucket.com/image/skater%20hair/faceVSknife/Ryan%20Sheckler/9.jpg
shorter:
http://www.digitalbattle.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/tony-hawk.jpg
dude, personality aren't something you can just ';change';. EASE yourself into what you want to be, but take it in little bitty steps to avoid looking like a poser. changing your hairstyle all at once can look fake, start by buying a few skater-esque items, and integrate them into your wardrobe. Keep adding on to this, replacing your old style with the new, replacing some of your old friends with the new, and then go complete your look with an awesome hair do (very shaggy, and something that doesn't look like your put a whole lot of effort into it)
wow, you don't just ';change'; your personality, that means that you're not being youself, you worded that horribly :(.
what you can do is though, make your vioce sound skater a bit more [just type in skater vioces on youtube or google], also look up skater hairstyles on google/youtube, and you can look up the skater clothing style aswell.
and dude, skaters usually cuss a good bit, just saying. or atleast the ones i hang out with, and i have alolta skater friends, and i'm kinda skater myself.
don't change your personality cause you can't really do that, but you can chenge you voice a bit, not to were everyone just plain out notices, but enough to get the point across.
How can I change my personality?
Well see I am sick of my personality.... I want to more like some one who you can trust, fun, serious, and someone you would want to hang-out with. Just saying because I hate my life... and I want to change it. If you have something that will help, please tell me! Thank YouHow can I change my personality?
Please Patiently read this. Thank You. I do
not know if it really changes a person's personality, but it most certainly changes a person's attitude, creating optimism, purpose, peace of mind, and happiness. Patiently read.
*What in the world is the difference between loving a person, and being attached to them? Love is the sincere wish, for others to be happy and to be free from suffering. Having realistically realized other’s kindness, as well as their faults, Love is Always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior intensions or motives to fulfill our own self-interests; or to fulfill our own desires, we love others, all people, simply because they exist. Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others’ good qualities, and makes us crave to be with them. When we’re with them, we are happy, but when we’re separated from them, we’re miserable. Attachments are always linked with expectations of what others should be, or what they should do for us. Is love, as it is understood in most societies, really love OR attachment ? Let us examine this a little more. Generally speaking, we are attracted {drawn to) people because they have qualities we value, or because they help us in some way. If we carefully observe, through introspection, our own thought processes we’ll notice that we very often look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we are drawn to are qualities within our parents, or qualities which society values.
We examine someone’s looks, education, social status, financial status, and so forth. This is how Most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value, or not. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they praise us, encourage us, help us, if they listen to what we have to say, if they make us feel secure, if they take care of us when were sick, unhappy or depressed, we consider them good, or sometimes righteous people, and these are the people we more drawn to, whom we are most likely attracted to, and the people we choose to be around with.
In all honesty, this is very biased, for we are judging them, only in terms of how they relate to us, as if we are the most important person in the world %26amp; thinking the world revolves around us! After we’ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them, it appears to us as if goodness is radiating out from within them, but as we are more mindfully aware, we realize that we have projected this goodness on to them.
Desiring to be the people who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo’s, when we’re with these people, we’re up, but when we’re not with them, we’re down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with these people will be, and thus have expectations of them. “When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we’re unhappy, disappointed or may even become angry. We want them to change so that they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from other people. Our problems arise not because others aren’t who we thought they were, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they were not. We often use a type of Checklist also. Checklist: “I Love You IF ___________ !” This Love is Conditional and what we call love, is most often attachment. It is actually an attitude which overestimates the qualities of another person.
’Then we cling tightly to that person, thinking our peace and happiness depends on that person. We even often blame that person for our unhappiness.’ Love, on the other hand, is a very patient, calm, optimistic and relaxed attitude. We want others to be free from suffering and to be happy simply because they exist. While attachments are uncontrolled, and too emotionally sentimental, Love is Patient, powerful, and controlled(disciplined). Attachment obscures our judgment {our ability to make sound, wise decisions), and we become impatient, angry, and impartial – helping our dear ones, and those who do us no harm. Love clarifies our mind, %26amp; we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on selfishness, while love is founded on valuing, %26amp; cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to us. Love always looks beyond all the superficial appearances and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want peace of mind, happiness, and wish to avoid suffering. If we see an unattractive, or unintelligent people we most often feel repulsed, because our selfish minds want to find attractive, intelligent, and talented people. On the other hand, Love never evaluates others by theses superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others appearances, they’re experiences are they same as ours: they want inner mental peace, happiness, and wish to be from suffering. When we’re attached, we’re not mentally, emotionally, %26amp; spiritually free. For we overly depend on, and cling to another person, to fulfill our emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. We fear losing the person, fearing that we’d be incomplete without them.” This does Not mean that we should suppress all our emotional needs, or become aloof, and totally independent, for that too would not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs and slowly, gently and patiently – seek to eliminate them. If we try to suppress them, pretending they do not exist, we become insecure, anxious, or possibly depressed. In this case, we do our best to fulfill our needs, while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others, rather than to understand them. Our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfish obscuring of our own minds. We develop confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a Selfless human being, having many magnificent qualities, and then we’ll develop and have an accurate perception of ourselves, gaining self-confidence. We’ll seek to increase true unconditional love, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience, as well as generosity, right concentration and wisdom. Under the influence of attachment, we’re bound by our unstable emotional reactions to others. When they’re nice to us, we’re happy, but when they ignore us or speak sharply to us, we take it personally, and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn’t mean we become hard-hearted, rather without attachments, there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. And as a result, we’ll be more actively involved with them. As we learn to transform our minds %26amp; lives, through subduing our attachments, we can definitely have successful friendships, and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer, more meaningful because of the freedom and respect the relationships are based on. We’ll really care about the happiness and misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same inside: we all want inner peace of mind, Happiness, and to be from suffering.
However, of course, our lifestyles and interests may be a bit more compatible with some people. Our friendships and our personal relationships will be based on mutual interests, and to help other people. Having such an attitude, we’ll be much More Patient, %26amp; tolerant toward others; will remain mentally calm, having Peace of Mind and Happiness, and we’ll communicate successfully with others in life.*How can I change my personality?
You cannot change the basic structure of your personality because it is your genetic make-up. However, you can make positives choices to change your habits. I would tell you to create a list of the positives and negatives of your personality. Then work, a little at a time, to make changes in your negative behaviors. Over time, your old habits and thought patterns will disappear, and will be repalced by the new positive ones. Remember, this is not a quick fix. It takes a lot of repetitions before an action becomes a habit, so hang in there and don't give up. You will become the person you want to become one small step at a time. Hope this helps.
Please Patiently read this. Thank You. I do
not know if it really changes a person's personality, but it most certainly changes a person's attitude, creating optimism, purpose, peace of mind, and happiness. Patiently read.
*What in the world is the difference between loving a person, and being attached to them? Love is the sincere wish, for others to be happy and to be free from suffering. Having realistically realized other’s kindness, as well as their faults, Love is Always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior intensions or motives to fulfill our own self-interests; or to fulfill our own desires, we love others, all people, simply because they exist. Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others’ good qualities, and makes us crave to be with them. When we’re with them, we are happy, but when we’re separated from them, we’re miserable. Attachments are always linked with expectations of what others should be, or what they should do for us. Is love, as it is understood in most societies, really love OR attachment ? Let us examine this a little more. Generally speaking, we are attracted {drawn to) people because they have qualities we value, or because they help us in some way. If we carefully observe, through introspection, our own thought processes we’ll notice that we very often look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we are drawn to are qualities within our parents, or qualities which society values.
We examine someone’s looks, education, social status, financial status, and so forth. This is how Most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value, or not. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they praise us, encourage us, help us, if they listen to what we have to say, if they make us feel secure, if they take care of us when were sick, unhappy or depressed, we consider them good, or sometimes righteous people, and these are the people we more drawn to, whom we are most likely attracted to, and the people we choose to be around with.
In all honesty, this is very biased, for we are judging them, only in terms of how they relate to us, as if we are the most important person in the world %26amp; thinking the world revolves around us! After we’ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them, it appears to us as if goodness is radiating out from within them, but as we are more mindfully aware, we realize that we have projected this goodness on to them.
Desiring to be the people who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo’s, when we’re with these people, we’re up, but when we’re not with them, we’re down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with these people will be, and thus have expectations of them. “When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we’re unhappy, disappointed or may even become angry. We want them to change so that they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from other people. Our problems arise not because others aren’t who we thought they were, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they were not. We often use a type of Checklist also. Checklist: “I Love You IF ___________ !” This Love is Conditional and what we call love, is most often attachment. It is actually an attitude which overestimates the qualities of another person.
’Then we cling tightly to that person, thinking our peace and happiness depends on that person. We even often blame that person for our unhappiness.’ Love, on the other hand, is a very patient, calm, optimistic and relaxed attitude. We want others to be free from suffering and to be happy simply because they exist. While attachments are uncontrolled, and too emotionally sentimental, Love is Patient, powerful, and controlled(disciplined). Attachment obscures our judgment {our ability to make sound, wise decisions), and we become impatient, angry, and impartial – helping our dear ones, and those who do us no harm. Love clarifies our mind, %26amp; we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on selfishness, while love is founded on valuing, %26amp; cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to us. Love always looks beyond all the superficial appearances and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want peace of mind, happiness, and wish to avoid suffering. If we see an unattractive, or unintelligent people we most often feel repulsed, because our selfish minds want to find attractive, intelligent, and talented people. On the other hand, Love never evaluates others by theses superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others appearances, they’re experiences are they same as ours: they want inner mental peace, happiness, and wish to be from suffering. When we’re attached, we’re not mentally, emotionally, %26amp; spiritually free. For we overly depend on, and cling to another person, to fulfill our emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. We fear losing the person, fearing that we’d be incomplete without them.” This does Not mean that we should suppress all our emotional needs, or become aloof, and totally independent, for that too would not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs and slowly, gently and patiently – seek to eliminate them. If we try to suppress them, pretending they do not exist, we become insecure, anxious, or possibly depressed. In this case, we do our best to fulfill our needs, while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others, rather than to understand them. Our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfish obscuring of our own minds. We develop confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a Selfless human being, having many magnificent qualities, and then we’ll develop and have an accurate perception of ourselves, gaining self-confidence. We’ll seek to increase true unconditional love, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience, as well as generosity, right concentration and wisdom. Under the influence of attachment, we’re bound by our unstable emotional reactions to others. When they’re nice to us, we’re happy, but when they ignore us or speak sharply to us, we take it personally, and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn’t mean we become hard-hearted, rather without attachments, there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. And as a result, we’ll be more actively involved with them. As we learn to transform our minds %26amp; lives, through subduing our attachments, we can definitely have successful friendships, and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer, more meaningful because of the freedom and respect the relationships are based on. We’ll really care about the happiness and misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same inside: we all want inner peace of mind, Happiness, and to be from suffering.
However, of course, our lifestyles and interests may be a bit more compatible with some people. Our friendships and our personal relationships will be based on mutual interests, and to help other people. Having such an attitude, we’ll be much More Patient, %26amp; tolerant toward others; will remain mentally calm, having Peace of Mind and Happiness, and we’ll communicate successfully with others in life.*How can I change my personality?
You cannot change the basic structure of your personality because it is your genetic make-up. However, you can make positives choices to change your habits. I would tell you to create a list of the positives and negatives of your personality. Then work, a little at a time, to make changes in your negative behaviors. Over time, your old habits and thought patterns will disappear, and will be repalced by the new positive ones. Remember, this is not a quick fix. It takes a lot of repetitions before an action becomes a habit, so hang in there and don't give up. You will become the person you want to become one small step at a time. Hope this helps.
Serious question i would like to change my personality?
Im a young black male %26amp; i would like to change my personality to more like the rapper Fabolous, how can i emulate him more?
*serious answers only*Serious question i would like to change my personality?
You said it... all you can do is emulate him... copy his 'personality'... a shame though as I am sure you are a great person... keep yours... do not copycat... or you lose your personality and cannot completely absorb his...Serious question i would like to change my personality?
Have the mind frame of a rapper fabulous. Think you are the **** and that everyone wants you. Then dress like them. It will come naturally if you think you are one
Drop out of school... Talk like a mongrel...
*serious answers only*Serious question i would like to change my personality?
You said it... all you can do is emulate him... copy his 'personality'... a shame though as I am sure you are a great person... keep yours... do not copycat... or you lose your personality and cannot completely absorb his...Serious question i would like to change my personality?
Have the mind frame of a rapper fabulous. Think you are the **** and that everyone wants you. Then dress like them. It will come naturally if you think you are one
Drop out of school... Talk like a mongrel...
How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
I CHANGE COMPLETELY WHEN I HAVE HAD A FEW WINES I BECOME THIS EXTROVERTED PERSON WHO IS NOTHING LIKE WHO I REALLY AM HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE AND IF SO HOW DO YOU CHANGE DO YOU HAVE REGRETS THE NEXT DAY.WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN.How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
Alcohol reduces your inhibitions. It has this affect on a lot of people but they react in different ways. People who perhaps would like to be the centre of attention but are too shy can become very extrovert; people who are less confident than they normally appear to be will talk about their insecurities. I've seen people who are uncertain about their partners commitment go out of their way to put temptation in their path.
Eventually you do learn where your weakness lies and you can decide how to deal with it.
My personal weakness is that I become affectionate; I'm by nature a hugger and kisser but live in a household where there is very little physical demonstration of affection. Obviously my intentions can be misunderstood as meaning more than they do.
Nowadays I don't get drunk enough to go beyond my limits in terms of behaviour; if I did misbehave it would be on purpose so I probably wouldn't have regrets.
Also I'll bet you that someone will complain about you shouting because you've used capitals.How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
My reservedness changes, so I might tell people more of what I really think, rather than being quite so polite or shy. I'll be more likely to strike up conversation with strangers.
Mostly I am just more chatty, on occasions I've been embarrassd the next day as I feel I may have told someone a little too much information about my personal life. I think essentially though I'm still me.
i get really happy when im drunk nd really flirty i never hve any regrets apart from if i argue with my boyfriend but thats about it!x!
can't remember
that's why lots of people drink to make them jack the lad for a few hours but deep down they are shy people who when sober would hide in the corner
excess alcohol alters your reasoning so slow down girlHow can I keep the blankets on my baby? ie tab
Alcohol reduces your inhibitions. It has this affect on a lot of people but they react in different ways. People who perhaps would like to be the centre of attention but are too shy can become very extrovert; people who are less confident than they normally appear to be will talk about their insecurities. I've seen people who are uncertain about their partners commitment go out of their way to put temptation in their path.
Eventually you do learn where your weakness lies and you can decide how to deal with it.
My personal weakness is that I become affectionate; I'm by nature a hugger and kisser but live in a household where there is very little physical demonstration of affection. Obviously my intentions can be misunderstood as meaning more than they do.
Nowadays I don't get drunk enough to go beyond my limits in terms of behaviour; if I did misbehave it would be on purpose so I probably wouldn't have regrets.
Also I'll bet you that someone will complain about you shouting because you've used capitals.How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
My reservedness changes, so I might tell people more of what I really think, rather than being quite so polite or shy. I'll be more likely to strike up conversation with strangers.
Mostly I am just more chatty, on occasions I've been embarrassd the next day as I feel I may have told someone a little too much information about my personal life. I think essentially though I'm still me.
i get really happy when im drunk nd really flirty i never hve any regrets apart from if i argue with my boyfriend but thats about it!x!
can't remember
that's why lots of people drink to make them jack the lad for a few hours but deep down they are shy people who when sober would hide in the corner
excess alcohol alters your reasoning so slow down girl
How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
I CHANGE COMPLETELY WHEN I HAVE HAD A FEW WINES I BECOME THIS EXTROVERTED PERSON WHO IS NOTHING LIKE WHO I REALLY AM HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE AND IF SO HOW DO YOU CHANGE DO YOU HAVE REGRETS THE NEXT DAY.WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN.How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
I know what you mean....
However...they do say that alcohol actually brings out your true personality...by breaking down inibitions and therefore allowing you to express your more extreme personal traits.......we might not like what we have done the next day but we should not ignore our actions either....as our drunken behaviour is something we can learn from...
The reason why our drunken behaviour is extreme to us....is because for most people we are not drunk that often......if we were then maybe the behaviour would be more normal!
And on a separate issue....you may like wine....but it is easy to drink and very strong....maybe a gin and tonic or two would be a lot better for you in not getting so drunk so quickly and keeping more in control?How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
I am happy and talkative. Then I pass out!
I am totally tactless and offend people. I think I am funny but not to everyone.
It depends on who I am with
unless yr very insulting i wouldnt worry about it..yay for the happy drunk ...nice to meet u
alcohol releases our inhibitions I'M exactly the same
one too many i'm ok three too many i'm a walkover i'm normally gob almighty unless i've had a few then i go mute
it's the wine.
try socialising without it.
alcohol the tongue loosen-er.
%26amp; sensibility-killer.
u don't need it.
try getting merry on the atmosphere?
let every1 else get drunk %26amp; people watch, it's fun.
I am completely like yourself. I do enjoy having a drink, but I become so much louder, more outgoing and a lot more confident than I actually am.
I do enjoy being drunk sometimes, but there are certain people who have only seen me when I am out in the pub, and portray me as a totally different person.
I'm really chatty and happy when I have a couple of glasses of wine but I'm quite happy anyway. I used to drink lager and that used to make me nasty so I avoid that like the plague. Different drinks affect me differently, I also can't drink cider or whisky cos they both make me quite nasty but vodka, tequila and brandy make me a happy drunk! It must be something to do with ph or something. Don't drink gin cos it makes me cry!
I either get very flirty or very sleepy.
Stop drinking, drinking any alcholic beverages to excess will change your attitude while under its influence. This does'nt mean its permanent, it only means you can change or later in life YOU will have problems.
yes i`m the exact same,i become confident and chatty and talk to anybody whereas if i`m sober i`m very shy and introvert.I do sometimes wake up and think oh no!
It happens becuse alcohol gives you confidence although maybe false,i`d love to be the way i am drunk when i`m sober.
My reservedness changes, so I might tell people more of what I really think, rather than being quite so polite or shy. I'll be more likely to strike up conversation with strangers.
Mostly I am just more chatty, on occasions I've been embarrassd the next day as I feel I may have told someone a little too much information about my personal life. I think essentially though I'm still me.
If you find you don't like how you get sometimes, maybe drink a little less, or, perhaps try a different type of drink. Some people find, for instance, that gin makes them depressed, or Stella Artois makes them go a bit mad.
In most people it changes in direct proportion to how much you are not your real self without it.
The loosening of inhibitions releases the sub-conscious controls and defences which are holding in those aspects of your personality which you normally aren't allowing yourself to express.
If you have regrets the next day then you are drinking too much. x
Well I become confident and full of joy most times but also I can become angry tearful and upset. It depends on my general state of mind at the time. Iv seen people behave completely out of character when drunk but have totally lost all memory the next morning, Im so glad thats not me, that would be horrid.
I go completely spontaneously happy, squeeling, shouting, jumping about, making everyone laugh, doing impersonations, everyone thinks I'm great craic, I did to till I found out it was Bipolar.
I don't drink now, but if I had one too many, I used to become really aggressive. I'd be willing to fight Mike Tyson after a few drinks.
I know what you mean....
However...they do say that alcohol actually brings out your true personality...by breaking down inibitions and therefore allowing you to express your more extreme personal traits.......we might not like what we have done the next day but we should not ignore our actions either....as our drunken behaviour is something we can learn from...
The reason why our drunken behaviour is extreme to us....is because for most people we are not drunk that often......if we were then maybe the behaviour would be more normal!
And on a separate issue....you may like wine....but it is easy to drink and very strong....maybe a gin and tonic or two would be a lot better for you in not getting so drunk so quickly and keeping more in control?How much does your personality change when you have had one too many?
I am happy and talkative. Then I pass out!
I am totally tactless and offend people. I think I am funny but not to everyone.
It depends on who I am with
unless yr very insulting i wouldnt worry about it..yay for the happy drunk ...nice to meet u
alcohol releases our inhibitions I'M exactly the same
one too many i'm ok three too many i'm a walkover i'm normally gob almighty unless i've had a few then i go mute
it's the wine.
try socialising without it.
alcohol the tongue loosen-er.
%26amp; sensibility-killer.
u don't need it.
try getting merry on the atmosphere?
let every1 else get drunk %26amp; people watch, it's fun.
I am completely like yourself. I do enjoy having a drink, but I become so much louder, more outgoing and a lot more confident than I actually am.
I do enjoy being drunk sometimes, but there are certain people who have only seen me when I am out in the pub, and portray me as a totally different person.
I'm really chatty and happy when I have a couple of glasses of wine but I'm quite happy anyway. I used to drink lager and that used to make me nasty so I avoid that like the plague. Different drinks affect me differently, I also can't drink cider or whisky cos they both make me quite nasty but vodka, tequila and brandy make me a happy drunk! It must be something to do with ph or something. Don't drink gin cos it makes me cry!
I either get very flirty or very sleepy.
Stop drinking, drinking any alcholic beverages to excess will change your attitude while under its influence. This does'nt mean its permanent, it only means you can change or later in life YOU will have problems.
yes i`m the exact same,i become confident and chatty and talk to anybody whereas if i`m sober i`m very shy and introvert.I do sometimes wake up and think oh no!
It happens becuse alcohol gives you confidence although maybe false,i`d love to be the way i am drunk when i`m sober.
My reservedness changes, so I might tell people more of what I really think, rather than being quite so polite or shy. I'll be more likely to strike up conversation with strangers.
Mostly I am just more chatty, on occasions I've been embarrassd the next day as I feel I may have told someone a little too much information about my personal life. I think essentially though I'm still me.
If you find you don't like how you get sometimes, maybe drink a little less, or, perhaps try a different type of drink. Some people find, for instance, that gin makes them depressed, or Stella Artois makes them go a bit mad.
In most people it changes in direct proportion to how much you are not your real self without it.
The loosening of inhibitions releases the sub-conscious controls and defences which are holding in those aspects of your personality which you normally aren't allowing yourself to express.
If you have regrets the next day then you are drinking too much. x
Well I become confident and full of joy most times but also I can become angry tearful and upset. It depends on my general state of mind at the time. Iv seen people behave completely out of character when drunk but have totally lost all memory the next morning, Im so glad thats not me, that would be horrid.
I go completely spontaneously happy, squeeling, shouting, jumping about, making everyone laugh, doing impersonations, everyone thinks I'm great craic, I did to till I found out it was Bipolar.
I don't drink now, but if I had one too many, I used to become really aggressive. I'd be willing to fight Mike Tyson after a few drinks.
I don't have a stable personality?
I don't think its a disease or anything but I constantly change personality as my jokes change and everything. But what stays the same is my type of humor. How can I have a more stable personality. I really don't want to get my desired personality only to lose it.I don't have a stable personality?
How is your personality changing? Most people actually have an extremely difficult time attempting to change aspects of their personalities. By definition, personality is a stable, pervasive way of adapting and relating to the world. I doubt it's your personality that's changing, maybe it's just your mood, which is normal.I don't have a stable personality?
I don't think you can't really change your personality. You are who you are.
Forget about it
How is your personality changing? Most people actually have an extremely difficult time attempting to change aspects of their personalities. By definition, personality is a stable, pervasive way of adapting and relating to the world. I doubt it's your personality that's changing, maybe it's just your mood, which is normal.I don't have a stable personality?
I don't think you can't really change your personality. You are who you are.
Forget about it
How do i hack my own brain, i want to change my personality?
You get some people to punish you everytime you are not acting with the personality you want. Say a shocker. Eventually you will adjust until you are used to saying this and do it without the shockerHow do i hack my own brain, i want to change my personality?
Its not possible by yourself and may not even be possible with a psychiatrist, but that is the way to try.How do i hack my own brain, i want to change my personality?
im not bragging about it,but i rlly helped many ppl change so i guess i can help u too....what do u think by adding me on:ruru_mcfly@hotmail.com...i guess i can help kteeeeer!!
Then change it. Stop doing the things you don't like doing. I'm an old dog (55) and five years ago, I taught myself some new tricks and am much better off for it.
Do something different from what you usually do everyday.
Do the opposite things you usually do.
Hope I helped!
:)
Its not possible by yourself and may not even be possible with a psychiatrist, but that is the way to try.How do i hack my own brain, i want to change my personality?
im not bragging about it,but i rlly helped many ppl change so i guess i can help u too....what do u think by adding me on:ruru_mcfly@hotmail.com...i guess i can help kteeeeer!!
Then change it. Stop doing the things you don't like doing. I'm an old dog (55) and five years ago, I taught myself some new tricks and am much better off for it.
Do something different from what you usually do everyday.
Do the opposite things you usually do.
Hope I helped!
:)
How do i change my personality to make me less awkward...and tell storys better?
it's really wierd but my mom is one way...and i guess i sort of took after her because she raised me like that...im not weird or anything I have a lot of friends but i'm not as outgoing as i would like to be...which is a big problem that i think about all the time. I just want to be able to talk to people better and tell storys better.How do i change my personality to make me less awkward...and tell storys better?
I'd have to say that those of us that have gotten to know you on Y!A think that you're a good communicator. The questions you post and the anwers you give are most certainly making their way way from your heart/brain...down through your arms to your fingertips.
It's ok to be an introvert.
I wish I had some good advice for you on this one.How do i change my personality to make me less awkward...and tell storys better?
You can try buying an inexpensive webcam and then record yourself talking about your day. Then review the video and see what you can improve on. I've tried this and I don't know if it helped since I don't do it consistently, but if you make an effort, you should improve at least a little since you're getting practice. :)
i know exactly what u mean.
one way is to be more secure with yourself. when u r secure it shows.
talk about things u do know about. like for instance if the conversation is about football and u know nothing about it. then just ask questions and listen.
another thing is that people sometimes like to be heard. so instead of doing the story telling, just listen and the conversation should flow.
Read these two books:
1. Psycho-psybernetics
2. How to win friends and influence people
They will teach you different aspects, but they are both very helpful..
Ask someone to watch you and start a conversation with them. Later ask them to see if you can improve with anything... Or... This is my favorite one
because it's also an excuse to go to the movies. ;] Watch a movie with a great speaker or your friend. When you're done, give them a short summary of what the movie was like. Ask them if it was a good summary. Hope you have a movie in mind and this works out well for you!
i dont think it's wise to change yourself. if you suddenly change yourself, what about your friends? wouldn't they miss the old you that they knew? you knows, maybe the you that you are now is what you were meant to be?
I'd have to say that those of us that have gotten to know you on Y!A think that you're a good communicator. The questions you post and the anwers you give are most certainly making their way way from your heart/brain...down through your arms to your fingertips.
It's ok to be an introvert.
I wish I had some good advice for you on this one.How do i change my personality to make me less awkward...and tell storys better?
You can try buying an inexpensive webcam and then record yourself talking about your day. Then review the video and see what you can improve on. I've tried this and I don't know if it helped since I don't do it consistently, but if you make an effort, you should improve at least a little since you're getting practice. :)
i know exactly what u mean.
one way is to be more secure with yourself. when u r secure it shows.
talk about things u do know about. like for instance if the conversation is about football and u know nothing about it. then just ask questions and listen.
another thing is that people sometimes like to be heard. so instead of doing the story telling, just listen and the conversation should flow.
Read these two books:
1. Psycho-psybernetics
2. How to win friends and influence people
They will teach you different aspects, but they are both very helpful..
Ask someone to watch you and start a conversation with them. Later ask them to see if you can improve with anything... Or... This is my favorite one
because it's also an excuse to go to the movies. ;] Watch a movie with a great speaker or your friend. When you're done, give them a short summary of what the movie was like. Ask them if it was a good summary. Hope you have a movie in mind and this works out well for you!
i dont think it's wise to change yourself. if you suddenly change yourself, what about your friends? wouldn't they miss the old you that they knew? you knows, maybe the you that you are now is what you were meant to be?
Heart transplant causes personality changes?
I was just curious about your thoughts on this.
I've heard that heart transplant recipients can have a partly changed personality. It's strange b/c they dont know what has happened to them until they find out about their donor and discover that he/she has in interest and the recipient has taken on this personality. These are major changes in some cases, like a man unable to read or write, who gets a heart transplant, and now can even write poetry. The donor was a poet.
I think it's interesting how this happens, and also how it's been discovered that out hearts have kind of 'brain cells' and memory cells, which react faster than even our brain.
Anyway, if anyone knows much about it, share your thoughts?Heart transplant causes personality changes?
Yes, It happens!
There have been many reported cases where people who have had heart transplants take on characteristics of the deceased donor.
One man could even suddenly play music, he had no idea why, then he met the parents of the deceased and found out their son was a musician.
I dont get it, it is certainly above and beyond anything I can comprehend, but I think it proves to us that, we do not know everything and that there are things greater than we realise and beyond our control.Heart transplant causes personality changes?
That's weird.. It makes me think un-science-y thoughts like the heart and soul are connected somehow..
parts of your body have hormones that affect your brain. the new heart may carry hormones from the donor, transferring it to the recepient..hence personality changes.
Yeah I know what you mean.
But hey, if you wanna get into a spiritual thing, the bible says the Soul is in the blood, and well the heart is pretty much the factory for it so I wouldn't be surprised.
i don't see how that is possible since your personality in said to be in the the front part of your brain interesting topic though but if it were true would u stop loving' ur husband if u were married b4... scary thought ignore it plz
i dont think so ...........
but may some thing effects emotionaly.....
that's pretty cool...can u prove it?how to break up with someone you love viikii.net
I've heard that heart transplant recipients can have a partly changed personality. It's strange b/c they dont know what has happened to them until they find out about their donor and discover that he/she has in interest and the recipient has taken on this personality. These are major changes in some cases, like a man unable to read or write, who gets a heart transplant, and now can even write poetry. The donor was a poet.
I think it's interesting how this happens, and also how it's been discovered that out hearts have kind of 'brain cells' and memory cells, which react faster than even our brain.
Anyway, if anyone knows much about it, share your thoughts?Heart transplant causes personality changes?
Yes, It happens!
There have been many reported cases where people who have had heart transplants take on characteristics of the deceased donor.
One man could even suddenly play music, he had no idea why, then he met the parents of the deceased and found out their son was a musician.
I dont get it, it is certainly above and beyond anything I can comprehend, but I think it proves to us that, we do not know everything and that there are things greater than we realise and beyond our control.Heart transplant causes personality changes?
That's weird.. It makes me think un-science-y thoughts like the heart and soul are connected somehow..
parts of your body have hormones that affect your brain. the new heart may carry hormones from the donor, transferring it to the recepient..hence personality changes.
Yeah I know what you mean.
But hey, if you wanna get into a spiritual thing, the bible says the Soul is in the blood, and well the heart is pretty much the factory for it so I wouldn't be surprised.
i don't see how that is possible since your personality in said to be in the the front part of your brain interesting topic though but if it were true would u stop loving' ur husband if u were married b4... scary thought ignore it plz
i dont think so ...........
but may some thing effects emotionaly.....
that's pretty cool...can u prove it?
How does Hypnotism work and can it be used to Permanently change someones personality?
oh yes... it can change somebody's personality alright. It is used in all the ways u never really think of. it's kind like manipulation....like movies, shows, (tv pretty much). some people start smoking cuz they see their favorite star smoking and it looks cool. Girls are girly, cuz they see girls behaving like that in movies, music videos(HANAMONTANA)... now what do u call that?How does Hypnotism work and can it be used to Permanently change someones personality?
It works by tapping into your sub conscious mind and implanting ideas, thoughts etc.
Some people believe it works others don't. I have neve tried it but perhaps with continued sessions it could work tro change someones way of thinking but I doubt it's powerful enough to change someones personality, nor should you want it to.
It works by tapping into your sub conscious mind and implanting ideas, thoughts etc.
Some people believe it works others don't. I have neve tried it but perhaps with continued sessions it could work tro change someones way of thinking but I doubt it's powerful enough to change someones personality, nor should you want it to.
If you had to work alongside this person at a job...how would your personality change you think?
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/70/ElliottSadlerAugust2007.jpg
also, does he look like an easy person to get along with?
why and how so?
also, how would your thinking change you think?
please explain.
btw, which area of world are you and do you see people like this there?If you had to work alongside this person at a job...how would your personality change you think?
He looks like he's passing gas.
Is that you, btw?If you had to work alongside this person at a job...how would your personality change you think?
What the!? I live in Australia %26amp; he appears to be a racing driver, as the clothing he has on suggests that. We see lots of racing drivers in Australia.He looks OK, wouldn't change me.
i think it would change for the better.
OMG...............how many more!!!!.. what about the flag?
also, does he look like an easy person to get along with?
why and how so?
also, how would your thinking change you think?
please explain.
btw, which area of world are you and do you see people like this there?If you had to work alongside this person at a job...how would your personality change you think?
He looks like he's passing gas.
Is that you, btw?If you had to work alongside this person at a job...how would your personality change you think?
What the!? I live in Australia %26amp; he appears to be a racing driver, as the clothing he has on suggests that. We see lots of racing drivers in Australia.He looks OK, wouldn't change me.
i think it would change for the better.
OMG...............how many more!!!!.. what about the flag?
How can i change my personality?
any ideas? i told someone one i just met that im gonna fake my death as a joke...i never spoke to that person againHow can i change my personality?
bang your head on the concrete wall 7 times n u'll become a brand new person]]How can i change my personality?
The rule of thumb is to BE YOURSELF! Never ever be a poser.
Stop putting your foot in your mouth, and think before you speak. That might be hard if you are an impulsive person.
if somebody told me that joke i'd laugh! you seem like a nice guy! keep it real and you'll find the people who love you for you!!!
bang your head on the concrete wall 7 times n u'll become a brand new person]]How can i change my personality?
The rule of thumb is to BE YOURSELF! Never ever be a poser.
Stop putting your foot in your mouth, and think before you speak. That might be hard if you are an impulsive person.
if somebody told me that joke i'd laugh! you seem like a nice guy! keep it real and you'll find the people who love you for you!!!
Is it REALLY possible for one to change their personality?
For example; say someone was boring, pessimistic, and lazy, quiet, shy...They had no friends and had a hard time engaging in conversations...basically their personality is crippling their life.
..with enough effort, could they change into a social, fun, outgoing, interesting person? Is that even possible, and how would they accomplish changing their personality, and maintain it?Is it REALLY possible for one to change their personality?
I would like to say that while being pessimistic and lazy could be termed as faults, boring, quiet and shy are not. The same thing one group may find boring, another could find very interesting. A person that seems shy to the outside world may not be at all, just introspective. A quiet person could be a very good listener. Artists, poets, writers and composers could all be put into these categories. Could these people change? Maybe, but most probably don't want to, because they're happy in their own serenity. I do know a person who is a sociopath, which is true anti-social behavior. I believe if a person like this truly wants to change, and really works hard to change, then they can.Is it REALLY possible for one to change their personality?
Its possible but very rare. From going to a depressed person to a really happy person sounds like he or she might have some kind of personality disorder and should be on medicine.
Our behaviours are generally learned and are ingrained in us so it takes alot for someone to change. However, with a lot of work it can be done. Firstly, they need to explore why they are the way they are. Are they depressed? Anxious? Is there some other reason for their social difficulties? People can definately change but they first need to peel the layers and find out why they are like they are - a good counsellor is highly recommended.
i think anythings possible kierra. how would one do it? one day at a time. they would have to engage in more social activities. they would have to get out of their comfort zone. i doubt it would be easy, and the person would really want that change in their life. a mental image of what he or she would want to be, would definitely make it easier to work towards that goal. psychiatrists and psychology majors more or less get into the field, because they believe it is possible for one to change.
I've come to believe that you can not change your basic personality traits. You can try to understand them and manage your life accordingly to get what you want.
I think some of the things you mentioned are not personality traits...boring, lazy are not personality traits. They are true of all personalities. An outgoing person can be boring...they will just be loudly boring. A hyper person can be lazy...they will just spend a lot of energy doing nothing.
I understand your question, I face the situation you are describing. I am an introvert and have a difficult time in some social situations. I fought against that for a good long time...wanting to be an extrovert because I thought only an extrovert could have fun and be happy. All personality types can be fun and happy, they will just go about it in different ways.
So no, I feel that despite the effort, an introvert can not become an extrovert. They can however become social, fun and interesting...if they except that they will not be that way in the same way that an extroverted person will be. There is more than one way to measure these things.
EDIT -- depression is not a personality trait. All people suffer from depression and just express it differently based on their personality.
EDIT the EDIT -- didn't mean to say that all people suffer from depression...just that all people CAN suffer.
You can't change personality traits but you can change with time personality tendecies. It depends on if the person is suffering from Depression or a Mental ilness-then with medication their personality could actually change dramasticly. If the person is not mentally ill or has any other indicators of a warped personality due to some kind of cause then i'd say its rare to change personaly completly.
I don't think you can completely change your personality, but I think it's possible to improve in areas necessary for having a proper conversation. First, you need to lose the fear of worrying about what everyone else thinks. When people see that you're worried about what they think, this automatically makes a possible conversation very awkward. Second, you need to be open minded about the things you are talking about...don't act like a robot in other words; speak your mind! Third, practice, practice practice. There is no substitute for practice and experience when it comes to having conversations with people. Also, it makes up for ALOT just to be a good listener. Make sure you maintain eye contact also. Well, I hope I helped you out some...goodluck!
It is possible, but takes a lot of reprogramming. Getting to know yourself is probably best first step. This points out the areas that need change, and makes one a bit more interesting to be around. Getting in shape physically can have a major impact, as well as taking public speaking courses in college or something. If they have a serious problem, that may impede; but never give up hope. Especially dealing with the huge prescribe anti-depressant trend. Remember that emotional health is key here. I made that change, the long and hard way. But I did make it.
Yes! I can tell you from personal experience it is possible. I have done it. It takes commitment and determination but it can be done. First however, you must decide what looks right on you. Fun, outgoing and social doesn't fit everyone. If you try too hard, you could wind up looking awkward and foolish. You may end up with a combination such as; social, fun, still a bit pessimistic but interesting. The most important thig is to relax and be yourself.
Sure, it's possible, but if depression is involved, the person needs to deal with this first before doing anything else. I used to be depressed and was on meds and went to counseling off and on for years. The depression finally left when I worked through everything and learned tips/tools how to keep depression away, so I finally was able to get off my antidepressant. :)
Then, a few years later, I decided to change my personality. I was quiet, shy, people thought I was either snobbish or boring because I couldn't speak up and join in on conversations. I got tired of how I felt not being a part of conversations (unless it was one on one) and feeling as if I was being left out of everything (and being taken advantage of because I wouldn't speak up). I did a complete turn around and am now a lot more outgoing and outspoken, join in on conversations--and people actually listen to me, converse with me, agree with me! I had to start small (such as at a restaurant when my food wasn't like I wanted or ordered it, I would let the waitress know, or the service wasn't good I let the manager know) and worked my way up to pretty much everyone. Now I am able to not only join in on conversations, but also can start them. Yes, I do have certain times when I am still shy and quiet, but during that time I just sit and listen, which is when I learn things about people and many subjects.
It took me over a year to change my personality, to figure out what I wanted it to be like in the end, where I fit in (such as in conversations, society, etc), but I did it. Over the last couple years or so I have been 'tweaking' my personality even more (which I think everyone should do all their lives) and notice that i am happier now than I ever have been, my self-esteem and self-worth have gone up a lot, and I don't depend on others to make me happy anymore (it's now up to me). I do get sad or upset because of things that happen in my life or around me (for example, my boyfriend broke up with me and kicked me out of our home and his life back in April--I still love him but now realize that he was cheating on me and I don't need that in my life), but I don't try to let them upset me for very long and I move on with my life.
yes its possible with great determination...
mine changed for the good after retirement
How to Change Yourself
Our personality results from how we respond to external stimuli that we encounter throughout our lifetime.
A personal experience is how we respond to a new encounter. (All encounters are new one's for us, as everything is unique and changing ?an encounter might seem similar but if you look close you will see a difference.)
All encounters are new, but if we respond the same way we are used to - out of our conditioning - then in effect we are resisting self-change. As long as we reject the new information coming from the outside and don檛 adapt to it, as long as we don檛 allow it in to change us, then we will be destined to have 'repeat experiences'. Repeating experiences is what keeps us the same and is also the cause of stress to build up in our bodies and is also the reason why we get diseases, illnesses, age and die.
The more we resist changing ourselves to outside changing conditions, the more 榦ut-of-date?we will get, and thus also why outside conditions will become increasingly stressful for us. Our pockets of resistance to change, result in building stress, which weakens the existing structure. This is the same thing that can be seen with a rigid structure such as a bridge, because it can檛 adapt itself to outside forces, the structure erodes, and eventually the stress becomes too much and the structure collapses. A collapsed structure is a forced cataclysmic change.
We resist outside influences on all levels, because it檚 our nature to want to stay the same, and the way we stay the same is by rejecting NEW outside information, which is nearly everything. So the truth, is that human beings by nature, reject nearly all new information. This is also the reason why humans are so slow to learn new lessons and make a real change throughout our long history. That war is still the main way today to settle differences shows that we still don檛 know how to adapt. So we will all change no matter what we do or not, but as a human we have a choice in the matter. If we can learn to adapt ourselves to what life is presenting to us all around, to become open, receptive, communicative, peaceful to what is presenting versus fighting everything that檚 different, then we will heal or recreate ourselves and thus this flexible nature will result in a greater possibility for us to survive.
Wisdom is in knowing this and learning how to adapt ourselves to the changing world around us. We need to learn how to drop and let go of the old parts of ourselves
and accept the new. This is basically learning how to accept the new and different and joining with it, versus fighting to maintain the existing structure. I think one key that can help us realize this truth is:
That in each encounter you have with another human being, you are being offered the gift to have a unique experience. This is true, simply because the two of you are unique.
When two humans meet, our own resistance to the uniqueness of the other becomes apparent and clear to us. Innately we want to find confirmation from the other, we want there to be sameness - we look for kindred spirits, for others of like-mind, for soul mates. But the reality of life forms is there are no two identical life forms, so there will always be differences. Acknowledging what we perceive as 榦ur?differences, is the key to change ourselves. When we meet another person we want to get agreement or confirmation from them for our sameness, if they give this to us, we like them and accept them but KNOW that this is the CAUSE of 榬epeating experiences? Wherever there is a difference, that doesn't give us confirmation, then we don't like it, so then we reject it, which also you should SHOW is the CAUSE of 榬epeating experiences?
So we should now know that if there is something in the other or in a happening outside of us, that we don't like, then 榦ur dislike?can be showing us our own resistance to change. To change we need to relax our 榤ental defense?and preference for our known and familiar behavior (to stay the same). If we can do this, then this will make us open to receive an unknown or a new encounter. when we open to receive new encounters, the door is open, the new energy can enter into the inside of us and in an instant we are changed. It檚 as simple as that.
To know if one is truly open to accepting new encounters a checkpoint might be the following: If after several encounters with fellow human beings you have learned nothing about your own resistance to change, if you have not found out one thing in yourself that needs updating and changing due to their feedback and existence, then you have lost an opportunity to change yourself and gain a new experience.
Betsy
It seems that your question assumes that changing ones personality would in some way improve ones life. Any improvement would only be superficial as the personality is only the surface level of a person's identity. It is the nature of personality to cause suffering, no matter how many ';good'; qualities it may have. If the point of the attempt to change the personality is to somehow reach a perceived level of happiness or contentment it is misguided. The happiness that is sought can not be found on the level of personality, one must go much deeper. Depth requires we stop trying to get better and begin to first accept who and where we are without judging and trying to get away from ourselves.
'Personality' is like a dress you are wearing or a raincoat. It protects you and keeps away unwanted influences. The dilemma is that people are identified with their cloth, they can't change it so easily, If the outside conditions are changing, then they don't want to change their clothing and prefer to suffer if there is too much heat, etc.
But YES, it is possible to change ones personality, the same as one can change ones clothing, even to the extend that one becomes totally naked and with this making the experience, that one is NOT that one is wearing and ones existence doesn't depend on this, but that there is something that is more essential. One might even make the experience, that one doesn't need any protection and one can live, enjoy and express ones pure being, so letting most of the problems connected with ones personality behind...
How to reach this state of being? Ask for it, then you will find the answer, it will come to you...
BeiYin
..with enough effort, could they change into a social, fun, outgoing, interesting person? Is that even possible, and how would they accomplish changing their personality, and maintain it?Is it REALLY possible for one to change their personality?
I would like to say that while being pessimistic and lazy could be termed as faults, boring, quiet and shy are not. The same thing one group may find boring, another could find very interesting. A person that seems shy to the outside world may not be at all, just introspective. A quiet person could be a very good listener. Artists, poets, writers and composers could all be put into these categories. Could these people change? Maybe, but most probably don't want to, because they're happy in their own serenity. I do know a person who is a sociopath, which is true anti-social behavior. I believe if a person like this truly wants to change, and really works hard to change, then they can.Is it REALLY possible for one to change their personality?
Its possible but very rare. From going to a depressed person to a really happy person sounds like he or she might have some kind of personality disorder and should be on medicine.
Our behaviours are generally learned and are ingrained in us so it takes alot for someone to change. However, with a lot of work it can be done. Firstly, they need to explore why they are the way they are. Are they depressed? Anxious? Is there some other reason for their social difficulties? People can definately change but they first need to peel the layers and find out why they are like they are - a good counsellor is highly recommended.
i think anythings possible kierra. how would one do it? one day at a time. they would have to engage in more social activities. they would have to get out of their comfort zone. i doubt it would be easy, and the person would really want that change in their life. a mental image of what he or she would want to be, would definitely make it easier to work towards that goal. psychiatrists and psychology majors more or less get into the field, because they believe it is possible for one to change.
I've come to believe that you can not change your basic personality traits. You can try to understand them and manage your life accordingly to get what you want.
I think some of the things you mentioned are not personality traits...boring, lazy are not personality traits. They are true of all personalities. An outgoing person can be boring...they will just be loudly boring. A hyper person can be lazy...they will just spend a lot of energy doing nothing.
I understand your question, I face the situation you are describing. I am an introvert and have a difficult time in some social situations. I fought against that for a good long time...wanting to be an extrovert because I thought only an extrovert could have fun and be happy. All personality types can be fun and happy, they will just go about it in different ways.
So no, I feel that despite the effort, an introvert can not become an extrovert. They can however become social, fun and interesting...if they except that they will not be that way in the same way that an extroverted person will be. There is more than one way to measure these things.
EDIT -- depression is not a personality trait. All people suffer from depression and just express it differently based on their personality.
EDIT the EDIT -- didn't mean to say that all people suffer from depression...just that all people CAN suffer.
You can't change personality traits but you can change with time personality tendecies. It depends on if the person is suffering from Depression or a Mental ilness-then with medication their personality could actually change dramasticly. If the person is not mentally ill or has any other indicators of a warped personality due to some kind of cause then i'd say its rare to change personaly completly.
I don't think you can completely change your personality, but I think it's possible to improve in areas necessary for having a proper conversation. First, you need to lose the fear of worrying about what everyone else thinks. When people see that you're worried about what they think, this automatically makes a possible conversation very awkward. Second, you need to be open minded about the things you are talking about...don't act like a robot in other words; speak your mind! Third, practice, practice practice. There is no substitute for practice and experience when it comes to having conversations with people. Also, it makes up for ALOT just to be a good listener. Make sure you maintain eye contact also. Well, I hope I helped you out some...goodluck!
It is possible, but takes a lot of reprogramming. Getting to know yourself is probably best first step. This points out the areas that need change, and makes one a bit more interesting to be around. Getting in shape physically can have a major impact, as well as taking public speaking courses in college or something. If they have a serious problem, that may impede; but never give up hope. Especially dealing with the huge prescribe anti-depressant trend. Remember that emotional health is key here. I made that change, the long and hard way. But I did make it.
Yes! I can tell you from personal experience it is possible. I have done it. It takes commitment and determination but it can be done. First however, you must decide what looks right on you. Fun, outgoing and social doesn't fit everyone. If you try too hard, you could wind up looking awkward and foolish. You may end up with a combination such as; social, fun, still a bit pessimistic but interesting. The most important thig is to relax and be yourself.
Sure, it's possible, but if depression is involved, the person needs to deal with this first before doing anything else. I used to be depressed and was on meds and went to counseling off and on for years. The depression finally left when I worked through everything and learned tips/tools how to keep depression away, so I finally was able to get off my antidepressant. :)
Then, a few years later, I decided to change my personality. I was quiet, shy, people thought I was either snobbish or boring because I couldn't speak up and join in on conversations. I got tired of how I felt not being a part of conversations (unless it was one on one) and feeling as if I was being left out of everything (and being taken advantage of because I wouldn't speak up). I did a complete turn around and am now a lot more outgoing and outspoken, join in on conversations--and people actually listen to me, converse with me, agree with me! I had to start small (such as at a restaurant when my food wasn't like I wanted or ordered it, I would let the waitress know, or the service wasn't good I let the manager know) and worked my way up to pretty much everyone. Now I am able to not only join in on conversations, but also can start them. Yes, I do have certain times when I am still shy and quiet, but during that time I just sit and listen, which is when I learn things about people and many subjects.
It took me over a year to change my personality, to figure out what I wanted it to be like in the end, where I fit in (such as in conversations, society, etc), but I did it. Over the last couple years or so I have been 'tweaking' my personality even more (which I think everyone should do all their lives) and notice that i am happier now than I ever have been, my self-esteem and self-worth have gone up a lot, and I don't depend on others to make me happy anymore (it's now up to me). I do get sad or upset because of things that happen in my life or around me (for example, my boyfriend broke up with me and kicked me out of our home and his life back in April--I still love him but now realize that he was cheating on me and I don't need that in my life), but I don't try to let them upset me for very long and I move on with my life.
yes its possible with great determination...
mine changed for the good after retirement
How to Change Yourself
Our personality results from how we respond to external stimuli that we encounter throughout our lifetime.
A personal experience is how we respond to a new encounter. (All encounters are new one's for us, as everything is unique and changing ?an encounter might seem similar but if you look close you will see a difference.)
All encounters are new, but if we respond the same way we are used to - out of our conditioning - then in effect we are resisting self-change. As long as we reject the new information coming from the outside and don檛 adapt to it, as long as we don檛 allow it in to change us, then we will be destined to have 'repeat experiences'. Repeating experiences is what keeps us the same and is also the cause of stress to build up in our bodies and is also the reason why we get diseases, illnesses, age and die.
The more we resist changing ourselves to outside changing conditions, the more 榦ut-of-date?we will get, and thus also why outside conditions will become increasingly stressful for us. Our pockets of resistance to change, result in building stress, which weakens the existing structure. This is the same thing that can be seen with a rigid structure such as a bridge, because it can檛 adapt itself to outside forces, the structure erodes, and eventually the stress becomes too much and the structure collapses. A collapsed structure is a forced cataclysmic change.
We resist outside influences on all levels, because it檚 our nature to want to stay the same, and the way we stay the same is by rejecting NEW outside information, which is nearly everything. So the truth, is that human beings by nature, reject nearly all new information. This is also the reason why humans are so slow to learn new lessons and make a real change throughout our long history. That war is still the main way today to settle differences shows that we still don檛 know how to adapt. So we will all change no matter what we do or not, but as a human we have a choice in the matter. If we can learn to adapt ourselves to what life is presenting to us all around, to become open, receptive, communicative, peaceful to what is presenting versus fighting everything that檚 different, then we will heal or recreate ourselves and thus this flexible nature will result in a greater possibility for us to survive.
Wisdom is in knowing this and learning how to adapt ourselves to the changing world around us. We need to learn how to drop and let go of the old parts of ourselves
and accept the new. This is basically learning how to accept the new and different and joining with it, versus fighting to maintain the existing structure. I think one key that can help us realize this truth is:
That in each encounter you have with another human being, you are being offered the gift to have a unique experience. This is true, simply because the two of you are unique.
When two humans meet, our own resistance to the uniqueness of the other becomes apparent and clear to us. Innately we want to find confirmation from the other, we want there to be sameness - we look for kindred spirits, for others of like-mind, for soul mates. But the reality of life forms is there are no two identical life forms, so there will always be differences. Acknowledging what we perceive as 榦ur?differences, is the key to change ourselves. When we meet another person we want to get agreement or confirmation from them for our sameness, if they give this to us, we like them and accept them but KNOW that this is the CAUSE of 榬epeating experiences? Wherever there is a difference, that doesn't give us confirmation, then we don't like it, so then we reject it, which also you should SHOW is the CAUSE of 榬epeating experiences?
So we should now know that if there is something in the other or in a happening outside of us, that we don't like, then 榦ur dislike?can be showing us our own resistance to change. To change we need to relax our 榤ental defense?and preference for our known and familiar behavior (to stay the same). If we can do this, then this will make us open to receive an unknown or a new encounter. when we open to receive new encounters, the door is open, the new energy can enter into the inside of us and in an instant we are changed. It檚 as simple as that.
To know if one is truly open to accepting new encounters a checkpoint might be the following: If after several encounters with fellow human beings you have learned nothing about your own resistance to change, if you have not found out one thing in yourself that needs updating and changing due to their feedback and existence, then you have lost an opportunity to change yourself and gain a new experience.
Betsy
It seems that your question assumes that changing ones personality would in some way improve ones life. Any improvement would only be superficial as the personality is only the surface level of a person's identity. It is the nature of personality to cause suffering, no matter how many ';good'; qualities it may have. If the point of the attempt to change the personality is to somehow reach a perceived level of happiness or contentment it is misguided. The happiness that is sought can not be found on the level of personality, one must go much deeper. Depth requires we stop trying to get better and begin to first accept who and where we are without judging and trying to get away from ourselves.
'Personality' is like a dress you are wearing or a raincoat. It protects you and keeps away unwanted influences. The dilemma is that people are identified with their cloth, they can't change it so easily, If the outside conditions are changing, then they don't want to change their clothing and prefer to suffer if there is too much heat, etc.
But YES, it is possible to change ones personality, the same as one can change ones clothing, even to the extend that one becomes totally naked and with this making the experience, that one is NOT that one is wearing and ones existence doesn't depend on this, but that there is something that is more essential. One might even make the experience, that one doesn't need any protection and one can live, enjoy and express ones pure being, so letting most of the problems connected with ones personality behind...
How to reach this state of being? Ask for it, then you will find the answer, it will come to you...
BeiYin
Why Does my personality change when I meet new people??
It seems like i change evrytime im around a differnt person. I dont no how to stay my self.Why Does my personality change when I meet new people??
THis could be due to a lack of feeling strong in your personailty. Just because you seem different around one person from another doesn't mean you have a personality disorder though. DIfferent enviornments call for different behavior. As long as the cahnges aren't drastic, that sounds compltley normal.Why Does my personality change when I meet new people??
i think its maily your nerves getting the best of you.. Everyone usually acts in a different way somehow.. BUt i always say.. be yourself no matter what.
Well just try to be you and my not try to conform your personality to those around you. That might be what you are doing, even though you are not aware of it. Cheers!
You're picking up on the energy of who/what they expect you to be and conforming to that idea. Remind yourself before meeting new people that you will just be you and keep that intention in mind. Part of the problem is also that you don't truly know who you are so make knowing yourself a priority. Meditation is very helpful in this way or just observe your thoughts, feelings, and preferences regularly....you will start to get a better sense of You.email hosting ask parent to buy
THis could be due to a lack of feeling strong in your personailty. Just because you seem different around one person from another doesn't mean you have a personality disorder though. DIfferent enviornments call for different behavior. As long as the cahnges aren't drastic, that sounds compltley normal.Why Does my personality change when I meet new people??
i think its maily your nerves getting the best of you.. Everyone usually acts in a different way somehow.. BUt i always say.. be yourself no matter what.
Well just try to be you and my not try to conform your personality to those around you. That might be what you are doing, even though you are not aware of it. Cheers!
You're picking up on the energy of who/what they expect you to be and conforming to that idea. Remind yourself before meeting new people that you will just be you and keep that intention in mind. Part of the problem is also that you don't truly know who you are so make knowing yourself a priority. Meditation is very helpful in this way or just observe your thoughts, feelings, and preferences regularly....you will start to get a better sense of You.
How to Change Your Personality?
What are ways to change my personality? I want to become a different person. I'm tired of who I am now.How to Change Your Personality?
I would say identify the parts of your personality that you dislike and make a serious resolution to change them through your actions and attitude. I'm not sure exactly what you want to change about yourself, but here are some examples: If you're a pessimistic person, decide that you ARE going to think positive thoughts. The next time you start looking at the downside of something, take a moment to stop and consider the brighter side. If you're rude or unfriendly on a regular basis, try giving someone a genuine compliment instead of making a negative remark. If you find yourself lacking in confidence, challenge yourself to do something you think would be very difficult for you to accomplish, and stick to it until you prevail. An earnest effort will often take you farther than you ever thought you could go. It is sometimes possible to change your behavior and your way of thinking by repeatedly and consistently making yourself think thoughts and perform actions that support the ideals of the type of person you want to be. To provide a better answer I would have to ask you what it is about your personality you really wish to change. Sometimes it's better to learn to love who you are and accept yourself that way, but if your actions are harmful to you or other people, it might be time for a change. Either way, if you want to change, it's up to you to decide that you WILL change. Once you get to that point, there ain't nothin' to it but to do it.How to Change Your Personality?
See yourself. Seek a closer conscious contact with God.
You must know who and what you are first.
Become the witness of what you think,say and do.
Watch everything and everyone in your enviroment.Your enviroment is a reflection of your spiritual condition.
Your thoughts words and deeds create your life circumstances. choose them wisely.
Start by rejecting negative thought.
Seek forgiveness,give forgiveness to others and forget.
Set a diffrent goal everyday and try to acheive it.
Try to keep thoes goals up as time passes.
Evaluate yourself by keeping a journal of some sorts; think about where you messed up and how you could improve. Also congradulate yourself when you do something good.
Try to think of something that will help you remember what you're working for.
Map out the changes that you want to make and set some goals -
Clothes help after all persona is linked to performance - as it means the mask that you speak though in ancient greek tragedies.
Play with the idea of perforimng as the new persona for a while till you meld with your ideal self.
i was interested to learn that some actors never come down from their roles as they are scared of being themselves so just get blotted out with alcohol till the next role comes along and they never have to meet themselves.
My son changed by giving himself a reason - he decided to be a writer and writers have to have lots of experiences so he went from being shy to being outgoing pretty much overnight.
I changed at the age of 16 when I left home and changed my name and constructed a new self in order to go to work and be more popular. I sloughed off my old life like a snakeskin and succeeded in forgetting it as it was pretty traumatic - later when I was stronger I revisited it and did the healing but wasnt capable at that time so I juts changed. Its easy if you let your past self go.
Some resources that have helped many people:
';Sacred Psychology of Change: Life as a Voyage of Transformation,'; Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D.
http://www.easwaran.org
';The Great Divorce,'; C. S. Lewis,
';The Master of Lucid Dreams,'; Dr. Olga Kharitidi,
';The Masters and Their Retreats,'; Mark Prophet,
';The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?';, Free and Wilcock,
';Man, Master of His Destiny,'; O. M. Aivanhov, and
http://www.carolbowman.com
http://www.dreamhealer.com
http://www.dreamviews.com
';To Live Within,'; Lizelle Reymond,
';Autobiography of a Yogi,'; Yogananda,
http://www.heartmath.org
http://www.noetic.org
Reviews at http://www.amazon.com
first of all accept whole heartily u are..no matter how tired u get of urself...u will gradually *** 2 luv urself in the time 2 ***..and so will others..
for the time being...
don't copy anybody..........just b what u are....more than changing the your
appearance and attire, focus more on inside thing.. just behave cool...make or rather convince others that u have changed completely...for betterr...
Get different friends. Do different things. Move to a new place. New wardrobe couldnt hurt. You are partly your surroundings, so if you change them, you yourself might follow.
try to become better in evry sappect you think you need a change and I ahd a simmilar problem. I changed but then I got tired of it too. But then LOve ****** me up badly.
Good Luck though( : I'm rooting for ya
wear a funny wig and do a horrible british accent, just run around and annoy the heck out of every one.
I would say identify the parts of your personality that you dislike and make a serious resolution to change them through your actions and attitude. I'm not sure exactly what you want to change about yourself, but here are some examples: If you're a pessimistic person, decide that you ARE going to think positive thoughts. The next time you start looking at the downside of something, take a moment to stop and consider the brighter side. If you're rude or unfriendly on a regular basis, try giving someone a genuine compliment instead of making a negative remark. If you find yourself lacking in confidence, challenge yourself to do something you think would be very difficult for you to accomplish, and stick to it until you prevail. An earnest effort will often take you farther than you ever thought you could go. It is sometimes possible to change your behavior and your way of thinking by repeatedly and consistently making yourself think thoughts and perform actions that support the ideals of the type of person you want to be. To provide a better answer I would have to ask you what it is about your personality you really wish to change. Sometimes it's better to learn to love who you are and accept yourself that way, but if your actions are harmful to you or other people, it might be time for a change. Either way, if you want to change, it's up to you to decide that you WILL change. Once you get to that point, there ain't nothin' to it but to do it.How to Change Your Personality?
See yourself. Seek a closer conscious contact with God.
You must know who and what you are first.
Become the witness of what you think,say and do.
Watch everything and everyone in your enviroment.Your enviroment is a reflection of your spiritual condition.
Your thoughts words and deeds create your life circumstances. choose them wisely.
Start by rejecting negative thought.
Seek forgiveness,give forgiveness to others and forget.
Set a diffrent goal everyday and try to acheive it.
Try to keep thoes goals up as time passes.
Evaluate yourself by keeping a journal of some sorts; think about where you messed up and how you could improve. Also congradulate yourself when you do something good.
Try to think of something that will help you remember what you're working for.
Map out the changes that you want to make and set some goals -
Clothes help after all persona is linked to performance - as it means the mask that you speak though in ancient greek tragedies.
Play with the idea of perforimng as the new persona for a while till you meld with your ideal self.
i was interested to learn that some actors never come down from their roles as they are scared of being themselves so just get blotted out with alcohol till the next role comes along and they never have to meet themselves.
My son changed by giving himself a reason - he decided to be a writer and writers have to have lots of experiences so he went from being shy to being outgoing pretty much overnight.
I changed at the age of 16 when I left home and changed my name and constructed a new self in order to go to work and be more popular. I sloughed off my old life like a snakeskin and succeeded in forgetting it as it was pretty traumatic - later when I was stronger I revisited it and did the healing but wasnt capable at that time so I juts changed. Its easy if you let your past self go.
Some resources that have helped many people:
';Sacred Psychology of Change: Life as a Voyage of Transformation,'; Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D.
http://www.easwaran.org
';The Great Divorce,'; C. S. Lewis,
';The Master of Lucid Dreams,'; Dr. Olga Kharitidi,
';The Masters and Their Retreats,'; Mark Prophet,
';The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?';, Free and Wilcock,
';Man, Master of His Destiny,'; O. M. Aivanhov, and
http://www.carolbowman.com
http://www.dreamhealer.com
http://www.dreamviews.com
';To Live Within,'; Lizelle Reymond,
';Autobiography of a Yogi,'; Yogananda,
http://www.heartmath.org
http://www.noetic.org
Reviews at http://www.amazon.com
first of all accept whole heartily u are..no matter how tired u get of urself...u will gradually *** 2 luv urself in the time 2 ***..and so will others..
for the time being...
don't copy anybody..........just b what u are....more than changing the your
appearance and attire, focus more on inside thing.. just behave cool...make or rather convince others that u have changed completely...for betterr...
Get different friends. Do different things. Move to a new place. New wardrobe couldnt hurt. You are partly your surroundings, so if you change them, you yourself might follow.
try to become better in evry sappect you think you need a change and I ahd a simmilar problem. I changed but then I got tired of it too. But then LOve ****** me up badly.
Good Luck though( : I'm rooting for ya
wear a funny wig and do a horrible british accent, just run around and annoy the heck out of every one.
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