How can i change my personality?

im such a cold person, not on the outside because i bottle it up. i try not to look at the world and people as bad but i just naturally do. i try to calm down and look at the great things i have in life and how lucky i am and how thankful i should be but it only last for a few hours until i start hating again. i dont want to make like a big personality change and be a fake, i just want to not be such a cold hearted person against the world cuz right now im living such a total lie. im such a preppy little b***h at school but at home im so full of hate and anger and want to despise everybody. Ayayay somebody help! ive tried to talk to people i know but i cant bring myself to it, besides my parents dont listen, my friends dont really care, and my counselor is too busy. besides its easier for me to talk to strangers knowing theres a slim chance of me meeting them again and having to remember my saddness. I mean it goes away for a while but sadly i have great memory....How can i change my personality?
Haha, thats funny cuz i actually think the same thing (easier to talk to strangers)



anyway, you can start by making a list of things you want to change about yourself.

Start one by one, and start at home. Like for example, if a mean person is trying to turn nice,



they can start by saying nice stuff to their parents, or smiling at everyone.



Just make a list of everything you want to be, then put them to action. Good Luck!How can i change my personality?
changing you personality can be challenging. First just try to be more optimistic about things. There are good things in life.I hate people with a burning passion . But you have to realize there are non- crappy people, and things out there.(it took me a while but its true).Start by thinking that every day is a fresh start, to become a better person. Mabye try hanging out with other people, or relaxing a little. You feel like your living a total lie/ then you have to start motivationg yourself to change, and do what you feel is right.
I am inadequate to provide help on a professional scale, but I would like to recommend self-behavior modifying books or just plain self help books with the focus on positive thinking. Creating a positive you isn't that hard, though it will require work and change on a large scale.

Learn to love yourself and others.

Peace!
You need to understand the difference between ';personality'; and ';behavior';. Your personality cannot be changed, certain characteristics. But behavior can always be modified. High School can be stressful when you are limited in the things you can do and the people you see. I have been in college for 3 years now and have despised high school. I am now majoring in psychology and plan to do something with my life. But you need to remember that it's important not to bottle things up because then you lash out at people who really aren't involved or at people close to you. Again, this is just a behavior problem, not something that is a part of youru personality. People are not born to hate, born to be racist, or born to hurt others. A lot of it has mainly to do with parents, peers, and other environmental sources. If you need guidance, a couselor is a good idea. Therapy is good. But also know that a lot of teens go through a low in their life. It can be common and know that you are never alone.
nah im a big meanie just like you. what youd want to do is avoid the rotten people, cos thats how i become rotten. you have to keep a sharp eye for nice people without problems and hang out with them itt'l eventually wear on you hope i helped, easy bro.
mabey right now u think u dont care but they do ..... my prob. is that from the inside i feel tierd or just nothing but from the outside i look mad so people think im always mad at them but im not its just how i look and that has brought problems.... but anyways u should just try to care about one thing imagine what would have happend if your parents wherent ther and somthing happend some kids say they would do anything they whant it but they never think of where would they end up ... i lk to think about my life and how would it be if some one wasnt ther... then i start feeling bad and start caring about that person just a lil more sometimes it works.... mabey if you start talking to ur friends and start opening up then you both just might be the same but just try to get advice from some people becasue some one else might have the same problem but may give u bad advice so just make sure u know who u getting the advice from.....
Maybe this will help.Before you spend too much time thinking about how lame a person is,or how rude or how geeky they are,or spend your time telling them how f%^%26amp; up they are,try putting yourself in their place for a second,you know, think about what they must go through being such a loser,and how hard it is for them to be normal.That just may give you a little bit of an attitude change.Just enough to start a small but noticeable personality change.

Good luck