How can i change my personality?

i try to be more outgoing, etc.

but i grew up with bullying in middle school...it think it has led me to not be so open around some ppl.

im in 2nd year university now, would like to change this bad trait and hopefully start some relationships XDHow can i change my personality?
Thats not changing your personality thats being more outgoing. Talk to people and once you make friends you feel comfortable and become more outgoing naturally.How can i change my personality?
get over it and just start being friendly to people.
join clubs.

you'll prolly open up more easily around ppl who share similar interests.
change your habits and get out of your comfort zone.
You are who you are for a reason. Use your life experience and be careful who you allow in your life. You can be friends with somebody for a long time without actually ';letting them in'; to your inner thoughts.

Once you truly know you can trust them then open up.
condition yourself
I think you should take a personality test..



try the Myers-Brigg inventory I am sure you can google it online and find a test you can take and grade yourself and that will show you what kind of personality you really have.



And if you want to change your personality you might also need to change your outlook on life..

.. this always works for me.. if iam feeling depressed ... I give myself a mini makeover to give myself a change..



Also try to hang out with people who are really positive..

try going out to clubs that way when you dance you'll feel liberated



Overall I think you just need change.. change in lifestyle, new look, new hair.. do what your budget allows you.. and people will notice you and will automatically start new conversations about your new look and i guess you can start from there.
I used to be the same way, if your known for being quiet, just say a few things at the right moment, like a joke when it's appropriate, eventually people will start talking to you and just start talking with them. Eventually the ball starts rolling from there
had this problem all through high school, ya know what you need to come to realize that your just as good as any other person. If someone trys to bully you just keep the attitude saying whatever.
You have no idea how much I can relate - it's almost like i wrote that question!



Basically, I beat my introverted personality - even though that was who i was for the past 19 years.



Some was from bullying, and partly becos of my parents being shy aswell.



Pretty much you just HAVE to get out of your comfort zone and strike up a conversation with people. Not talking to someone gives the impression that you don't want to - and who wants to be friends with someone like that?



If you really want this, you will get it. But its not easy, and it will probably take around a year of getting out there and talking to people.



This sounds bad, but if ur old enough to drink maybe just get drunk at the uni bar or out on the town one night and ur confidence level will open right up :)



Or just sit next to someone in a lecture and start asking them what course they're doing and where they're from... if they go clubbing much... where they live... what school did they go to etc etc etc



It's all very repetitive when you make friends.. there's no special magic. Just conversation and questions to get to know them. Act interested in them and they will respond better and think of you as a potential friend. Then every time you see them after your first meeting, you can wave and say hi. Maybe strike up another conversation about their weekend.



And there you have it! A friend! :)
the same thing happend to me.....and iv been working on becomeing more out going by just making myself talk to new ppl. Start out by just makeing small talk and eventually it will get easier. Just be yourself aound other people, and dont be afraid that they r going to mke fun of u...beside even if they were its their problem not urs. Also i agree with the club idea, that will help too.

good luck!
you should try getting involved with some kind of club. you don't mention your interests but whatever they are they are bound to have a club of some sort either through school or in the community at large.



take up a hobby that gets you interacting with other people.



if you want to meet women learning how to dance can be very helpful



you can change your personality but it doesn't happen overnight, continue trying to grow by learning new skills and trying new things



when you enter the workplace you will continue to grow and develop more confidence, as you gain experience you will find newer employees coming to you for assistance and will develop leadership skills



in 10 years you could be in a supervisory role at work, invited to all the parties, dancing with all the girls, riding a harley on the weekend and playing in a band. you might be wondering why you didn't do these things earlier in life. but everything is a process and takes time. some things come easy to some or at least they seem to. the more people you get to know you will come to find out that most of the ';cool'; people have a lot of problems that you never knew about. you may find out that your are pretty popular yourself.



if you have some friends who don't ever go anywhere or do anything and maybe you all just hang out and watch tv or whatever try to break free of that rut, you can stay friends with them but try not to spend too much time with people like that as they may be perfectly happy but you will not be happy like that
If you need to change your personality for people to be friends then it will be just fake cuz that isnt the real you. Just be your self.