How long does it take for a person to change his personality?

My bf is hot, but personality wise he's often defensive and the way he talks pisses me off, making me want to break up with him.



However he said that he's willing to change and that he's seeing a psychologist for counselling, coz he wants things to work out between us. How long do you think it would take for him to change?How long does it take for a person to change his personality?
Give it 40 years.How long does it take for a person to change his personality?
sorry, you really shouldn't try to change a guy, as he will only hate you forever for it and think your a ho. So my question for YOU is: are his skills in the bedroom worth his lame personality. OH and if not i suggest purchasing a lab puppy for the personality and vibrator for safe effective pleasure, thats pretty much a boyfriend right?.
Exactly 3 hours.
You cannot force change, but you can only hope to speed up its process. In other words change varies from person to person will power is a important factor
Can the leopard change his spots?



oh well.....
I think it will take as long as he wants it to.

Get the basic help of the psych, then its all up to him and how long he chooses to cling to his old personality

It sounds like he just needs to watch over himself and force his conversations to be different, but the psychologist would definitely be a good idea, for them to point out his faults and lay down the basics of changing them





Best of luck!!
why are you even with him? are you too insecure you can't find any other guy?
i would just break up with him anyway, if he changes go back, if he doesn't it proves he was only trying to stop your nagging (i mean this in the least critical way), and didn't want to make the change for himself. If you break up with him and he still thinks that the shrink can help him then maybe there is something there
Trust me you will be the luckiest girl on earth if you try to change him. No one could change someone it all depends on that person. Would you like it if he try to change your appearance or personality? Im guessing your answer is no. Your personality and appearance is what makes you, if you try to change it your making him know that you don't like him. Accept him for who he is and if he is willing to change his personality and some of his ways let him do it.

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Have you been able to change your personality?

I know our personalitieis are formed earlier -- but I have seen some people who were able to change -- have you had such success and how do you do it without slipping back?Have you been able to change your personality?
I can tell you of two ways a person's personality can really, trully change. First, and this is from personal experience, moving out into a new setting and reforming your life entirely. I'll explain... Last summer I had just gotten out of high school and wasn't the most talkative person to have around. I had my beliefs, I had my favorite music, I had my style, ect. Then I moved away to college. Away from home, from my mom, from the every day life I used to live. Everything changed. I developed new friendships, I had to keep the room clean without being told to do it, I had to make sure my homework was done, I had to communicate with people on a different level. This past year away at college has really changed me into a completely different person. I'm more carefree and don't care as much what people think of me among other things. I think one of my friends who's also my ex was the one impacted the hardest by my change and he's seen it begining till end. According to him I'm a completely different person now.



The second way is going through a very tragic event. This one I witnessed with my friend mentioned above. It was just after we had broken up. Things had been really tough on both of us but he got hit with it more than I did because he didn't want the break-up at all. He went through an incredibly hard time and by the time he had pulled himself together again and we started talking I saw that he had somehow changed. He suddenly had become confident in himself more and decided that it was about time for him to take control of his own life. It's really a tragedy in itself that a person has to go through a downfall in life to be able to change for the better but that's the way it works.



As for slipping back into your old self... Don't look back on the past. If you become a better person from your experiences then look to the future instead and forget who you were back then. I was fairly shy and not very talkative throughout my school years but I've changed and now I gotta try and make this as short as I can so I don't write you a novel %26gt;.%26lt; If you really have changed and are not just trying to act like someone you're not then there isn't any way you can really return to who you were. Once you change yourself trully you don't have to worry about trying to keep up pretenses or any of that nonesence. You have the new you so you can just be this new self and it won't change. Changes like that are incredibly rare but do happen a select few times in everyone's life. Hope this answers it.



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I think it really depends on a lot of factors. For some people, going through a really extreme experience can be enough to shake us up and start to look at our lives/the way they're going. It depends on our ever changing beliefs/values=what our life was formed around.
i think it just depends what you're involved in... before I would joke around more and now i tend to be more considerate or understanding since i'm involved in clubs and advising people...
Personalities are formed by what surrounds us (people,media,creed etc.). People unconsciously draw good and bad attributes of the people they are around with, so that is one of the way of personality formation.

To your question; Yes i have been able to change my pesonality which is not easy at all. One has to find one's own personality that come with us as a ';package'; in our birth, God gives us that gift of being different of everyone including our twin(if the case). So to change your personality you have to first find it, you will find attributes that you like, other that you don't and others that you are not certain about.

Now the ones that you will know that are the ';pure'; ones, are the ones that have been the mix of other attributes for istance.

The thing is that these ones will be the ones that will make you grow, feel good, and ';fight back for you';.



In my personal oppinion i have ditto other people i admire and others i have to envy, but i have understood that i can borrow their attributes but as long as i am myself, and not wanting to be anyone just myself, have my own personality.

In my case i want to follow Jesus Christ steps but that doesn't mean that He does not want me to find my own personality.



Try to find your own personality and then change it for good.

BE YOURSELF!
People can change. It depends on the environment around the person and his old personality.

Is it possible to change your personality completely?

If so how long would it take and what steps would you have to take?Is it possible to change your personality completely?
Not at all. There are some things you can never change. For those who think that they have changed already, you've only suppressed one part of yourself and revealed the other. Alteration can happen at a certain level, some parts of your personality can be altered but not the whole of it. Personality is formed by different components. One is a biological INHERITED component such as the chances of getting schizophrenia, being a depressive (having MDD) person, part of your intelligence, and even your likelihood of getting divorced. Back in class we studied the case of two twins called the Jim Twins. The case study was done at the university of Minnesota by Thomas Bouchard. These twins were reared apart and only met after 40 years of their birth. Both had been nail biters and fretful sleepers. Both had migraines. Both had married first wives names Linda, second wives named Betty. Lewis named his first son James Allen, Springer named his James Alan. For years, they both had taken holidays on the same Florida beach. They both drank Miller Lite, smoked Salem cigarettes, loved stock car racing, disliked baseball, left regular love notes to their wives, made doll furniture in their basements, and had added circular white benches around the trees in their backyards. Their IQs, habits, facial expressions, brain waves, heartbeats, and handwriting were nearly identical. The Jim twins lived apart but died on the same day, from the same illness.That is the power of your genes, it's something that you have almost no control over. Moreover your personality is developed greatly in your childhood. The slightest things back then have formed a whole matrix called your personality. Unless you're a prodigy like none other you can not completely dissolve and reconstruct your personality. However you can change your behavior and the way your personality is expressed. It shouldn't be too hard to change your behavioral patterns, it would take around a few months. The first step is deciding to change. Once you decide to change your behavior you can then plan out the behavior you are working to get. Once you have that imagine in your mind, compare it to your current self and start by drawing plans on how to become that image. A clinical psychologist would be of a great help in that instrumental change. If you are a teenager, then just let yourself be, you'll change without even pulling a finger.Is it possible to change your personality completely?
Well, I was able to, it took me a few years but I was able to escape most of my depression by keeping myself on a constant sugar rush and always acting happy and crazy. I guess it depends on how you were raised and what your first personality was.
yeah change your metaphysical outlook if you see differently you will have something different to react to and you will also be different.



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be continually objective and simply choose random personality traits to display. although this will be a facade whereas the metaphysical change will affect the real you!
Take it one day and a time.

How Can I Change my personality?

Well, I've been a nice guy for pretty much my entire high school life. I've made tons of friends and relationships with other people, but i'm not saying that not great and all. I just want to get a taste of of what its like being a ';bad boy'; or someone that everyone is drawn to without the need of an introduction at first. Any tips?How Can I Change my personality?
As with mental disorders, there is no cure (except maybe the odd surgery), only means to manage impulses and cope with the emotions (or lack thereof). So you can't really change your personality, only what you appear as on the outside, but that's what you're looking for, anyway.



If you're looking for attention; you can change the way you dress or act (listen to your impulses instead of reason).



Really, though, if you want people to be drawn to you, a reasonable amount of eye contact and a pleasant smile can help.How Can I Change my personality?
you cant change a personality. Its who you are. and if you do try it your real personality will pop up sooner or later.
Dont try and be the ';bad boy';, just dont do it. Nothing positive comes from it. What you want in reality is that confidence. Try to focus more on yourself and how you act. Do nice things for others but dont do it out of insecurity or worry that they wont like you. Do it because you're a nice guy and thats what you WANT to do. Key: do what YOU want to do and dont let anyone do anything to harm you. once you have that attitude, people will be drawn to you whether you are 'bad' or 'nice'



but dont try to change your personality..you'll get nowhere
I think I understand, as I was a good girl all through high school; one day in a moment of defiance, I walked on a lawn marked, 'don't walk on the grass' - just to be defiant...



Bad boys seem so much more attractive - until - you marry one, and realize your life is a living mess.... Good guys seem to finish last, but they sure can finish best; remember, that once you begin to sully your good name, it is hard to get it back, and - perhaps it is not being 'bad' is what you really want; you want just to be able to make your own decisions and not placate everyone or go by the rules; I am now in a situation where once in a while, i want to know when can I bend the rules, when is it okay to break the rules for a greater good?



Just think of the consequences of what bad entails; jail time, dishonor, disrespect, loss of reputation. Maybe what you need is just an opportunity to cut loose- go hang gliding or bungi jumping... rock climbing, something that makes you grow in your own personal estimation...
Hint: Right now you are a good boy who has good friends and good relationships. You WANT to be a good boy. Trying to change your personality is not possible, you are who you are. If, for some strange twisted reason, you do become a bad boy, than you will have jerks for friends, you will end up being a bully, and who knows how many girls you will break the hearts of.

Oh, I'm sorry, you WANTED to change your life? You wanted to do something stupid?

Ouch, I've got to get out of this place!

Is it possible to change my personality? How?

I really dispise my personality. I dislike the things I say and how I react to others. I think that my personality pushes me away from other people.Is it possible to change my personality? How?
Not enough information to give specific help.



Start with your health.. are you exercising and off drugs? Second, Identify things that make you happy and create a life that is a journey to experience your joys. Third, every day start out with a smile and remind yourself you are special.



You don't have to change your personality just your attitude.



Good Luck!!Is it possible to change my personality? How?
you prolly don't have enough time and money for that. if your on drugs get off of them. yes the prescription pills too. just cuz a doctor prescribed them doesn't make it all right.
it is possible to change your personality.



before making changes please understood your environment and what type of approach you are going to adopt ... example

trait approach, psycho analysis, humanistic, learning or behavioral approach..



you are extrovert or introvert ...



carefully decide what type you want to be.. and why...



best of luck

Can you change your personality to be outgoing?

I feel like my introverted and shy nature is ruining my life and preventing me from making friends. How can I become a naturally outgoing person?Can you change your personality to be outgoing?
You simply cannot change your entire personality all at once, or even overnight. It's a gradual process. If you try to change too much at once, you can end up startling yourself and retreating right back to square one.



Baby steps! Try one thing at a time. You have to become accustomed to the changes you're making to your own behavior. For example, this week you could start off by complimenting one random person per day. What does this accomplish? Well, obviously you're working on becoming more outgoing, so the more you get used to talking openly with random people, the less you'll worry about it and it will eventually not be such a big deal anymore. Secondly, you're brightening a random person's day. If they were in a bad mood before you said something nice to them, you could potentially turn their day around. Or, if they were having a good day, your nice comment can make it that much better. See? It's win-win.



I could go on and on... but I'll stop for now and let you decide what you want to do from here. If you'd like any other suggestions, just ask!Can you change your personality to be outgoing?
Be friendly. Be generous. And be a ';social butterfly'; All it is to be out going, is to have a positive out look on life and try and ONLY see the positive in people. Cheer them up, if they are down. It is just being a person who cares really... and who knows such things, as the golden rule....



Really, just be kind.... be expressive but most of all be you... do not under any circumstance be a conformist if it conflicts with your values and/or morality.
As an introverted person myself, you can learn to socialize, but as far as being outgoing, there isn't anything you can, or should want to do.



Our society makes it out to be that the only way to be happy is partying with lots of friends, one night stands getting drunk and doing drugs and going out and being plain stupid. Introverted people normally enjoy solidarity because we don't see the point in all that stupid crap. We are perfectly happy with being with a select few friends and doing the things we enjoy.



You just have to learn to be happy with who you are, if you can;t be happy as an introvert than you would never make it as an extrovert when you have all the abuse, using, drama and fighting it comes with.
Well, if you are introverted and shy naturally, then you can not become a naturally outgoing person. You can become outgoing but it won't be natural for you to do so, it will be a learned and forced behavior.

Having said that, you will just have to get started. Start by joining some clubs, or athletic events, something where there is a lot of ppl, and they are doing the same things that you like to do. Then it will be easier to start up conversations and seem relaxed and natural. After some initial success with talking to ppl, you will become more relaxed, and it will show. Next thing you know, you will be a naturally self made extrovert! You can do it!
It's pretty impossible to change your actual personality. If that were possible, then there would be perfect little clones everywhere. But shyness is more of a self-esteem issue, too. Maybe you don't feel comfortable with people because you aren't used to social interaction. Maybe when you were very young, something happened that made you withdraw into yourself. First, address the reason why you are shy. Then, find ways to improve self-esteem and social styles. In the morning, smile in the mirror and list everything that's great about you.

Think to yourself-Today is going to be a great day, I won't let anything get in my way. I'm going to make new friends. Roll your shoulders back, put your chin up and walk around with a slight smile in your eyes. If you see someone by themselves, go over to them and begin with an ice-breaking interaction. Make more friends and over time, you will become more comfortable with people.

Good luck!
Well that is you individuality as a unique person but you can flex. Help yousdelf by gradually doing what extroverts do. Mingle with people and be open to new experiences of the outgoing life!

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How do you change your personality to become funny?

i want to be sarcastic or funny. i have no friends and i want to be cool, how do i change myself from socially awkward to cool?



also how do i get rid of stage fright. my stomach twists and turns in fearHow do you change your personality to become funny?
Put a little red ball on the end of your nose.How do you change your personality to become funny?
comes naturally.

i used to be a nerdish in 3rd grade?. popular nerd, but still.

sarcasm just came along with getting older.

;)
don't worry so much.. you shouldn't have to change yourself to be 'cool'.. just be you.. if someone doesn't think youre cool enough the way you are then, they're definetly not worth worrying about :p



just dont try too hard!



and as far as the stage fright.. once again don't let it get to you.. just be you.. theres nothing you can do to change who you are.. you'll always be you! so everyone's just gotta like you or hate you.. and YOU have to live with it...



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you don't need to be the class clown to make friends. Sometimes if you overdue it not only will no one ever take you seriously, but they'll be laughing at you, not with you. My suggestion is to just start talking to people and just see what you have in common. If you want to be funny, share experiences you have had in your life which are now seen as funny.
there is no reall way to change your personality just be yourselff, and eventuallly your funny part of you will come out.
Yeah I was kinda a cool nerd too things like that just come to you and when you want to say somthing just say it without thinking, thinking just messes up everything
It艣 not that easy to change your personality. You shouldn麓t be something you are not. If you want to make friends, just like ask a question to someone next to you. Then you can start a conversation. And then introduce yourself after you have warmed up to them.
You should buy a joke-book and read jokes and you might get into it and that should help a little to become more funny. And with the stage fright,act like there is no one there and your just alone, or if that doesn't work , think that everyone is in their underwear and being more embaressed than you. I hope everything works out well. =)
Sarcasm can backfire quickly. Funny is good, but not at the expense of others' feelings. Tell funny stories that have actually happened to you (not gossip about others).
When people are talking to you pay attention to every word they say. Stay sharp and be quick-witted. I used to be a lot more shy. Just break out of your shell. Introduce yourself to people. I always tell myself, ';what's the worst thing that can happen? Either a person will be kind to you or snub you.'; In the end it's always beneficial to introduce yourself to people and find out what your common interests are. That's how you build relationships.
Well don't change your attitude completely then you might loose friends. Like if someone does something really dumb or idiotic than crack some hilarious joke about that stupid incident. Soon enough you'll be a pro at it. Also about the stage fright thing I have that to but there just people don't be afraid of them unless you have a fear of people which would just be toetally odd.



Wish you luck



Wish you luck