You simply cannot change your entire personality all at once, or even overnight. It's a gradual process. If you try to change too much at once, you can end up startling yourself and retreating right back to square one.
Baby steps! Try one thing at a time. You have to become accustomed to the changes you're making to your own behavior. For example, this week you could start off by complimenting one random person per day. What does this accomplish? Well, obviously you're working on becoming more outgoing, so the more you get used to talking openly with random people, the less you'll worry about it and it will eventually not be such a big deal anymore. Secondly, you're brightening a random person's day. If they were in a bad mood before you said something nice to them, you could potentially turn their day around. Or, if they were having a good day, your nice comment can make it that much better. See? It's win-win.
I could go on and on... but I'll stop for now and let you decide what you want to do from here. If you'd like any other suggestions, just ask!Can you change your personality to be outgoing?
Be friendly. Be generous. And be a ';social butterfly'; All it is to be out going, is to have a positive out look on life and try and ONLY see the positive in people. Cheer them up, if they are down. It is just being a person who cares really... and who knows such things, as the golden rule....
Really, just be kind.... be expressive but most of all be you... do not under any circumstance be a conformist if it conflicts with your values and/or morality.
As an introverted person myself, you can learn to socialize, but as far as being outgoing, there isn't anything you can, or should want to do.
Our society makes it out to be that the only way to be happy is partying with lots of friends, one night stands getting drunk and doing drugs and going out and being plain stupid. Introverted people normally enjoy solidarity because we don't see the point in all that stupid crap. We are perfectly happy with being with a select few friends and doing the things we enjoy.
You just have to learn to be happy with who you are, if you can;t be happy as an introvert than you would never make it as an extrovert when you have all the abuse, using, drama and fighting it comes with.
Well, if you are introverted and shy naturally, then you can not become a naturally outgoing person. You can become outgoing but it won't be natural for you to do so, it will be a learned and forced behavior.
Having said that, you will just have to get started. Start by joining some clubs, or athletic events, something where there is a lot of ppl, and they are doing the same things that you like to do. Then it will be easier to start up conversations and seem relaxed and natural. After some initial success with talking to ppl, you will become more relaxed, and it will show. Next thing you know, you will be a naturally self made extrovert! You can do it!
It's pretty impossible to change your actual personality. If that were possible, then there would be perfect little clones everywhere. But shyness is more of a self-esteem issue, too. Maybe you don't feel comfortable with people because you aren't used to social interaction. Maybe when you were very young, something happened that made you withdraw into yourself. First, address the reason why you are shy. Then, find ways to improve self-esteem and social styles. In the morning, smile in the mirror and list everything that's great about you.
Think to yourself-Today is going to be a great day, I won't let anything get in my way. I'm going to make new friends. Roll your shoulders back, put your chin up and walk around with a slight smile in your eyes. If you see someone by themselves, go over to them and begin with an ice-breaking interaction. Make more friends and over time, you will become more comfortable with people.
Good luck!
Well that is you individuality as a unique person but you can flex. Help yousdelf by gradually doing what extroverts do. Mingle with people and be open to new experiences of the outgoing life!
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