Can a person change her personality her attitude towards life become more positive if yes then how?

After marriage i frequently find myself more frustrated %26amp; depressed i want to change. I want to come out of that pain %26amp; anxiety as soon as possible please help me.Can a person change her personality her attitude towards life become more positive if yes then how?
1.I think most of the problems will not arise if you do not think

2. Thinking more than required at times does more bad than good.

3. Remeber one SHIP-- S-Solution, H - Happiness, I - Innovation, P - Productivity.

4. When you are dipressed you go through this SHIP ask your self

a. what I am thinking is a solution to my problem - Yes or no

b. this would bring happiness to me and my family- Yes or no

c. this is a great idea and will improve my way to work and family life - Yes or No

d. Following these thoughts my effeciency as a home maker or as a professional will increase i will be able to do more good job.

5. If all the answers are No (or most of them are) then stop thinking.

6. Now how do you stop thinking-- if somethings really agitates your emotions? read further points.

7. Do this everyday before sleeping and soon after you get up in morning-- sit quitely and concentrate on your breath, do not go after your thoughts,

as soon as you get a thought start counting your breath till you get another thought and so on.

8. Do some thing that keeps your mind busy like read a book, learn new mathematical formulae, learn the phone nos by heart of all people you know.

9. If you are not happy act as if you are till it becomes your habit.

10. Dont put the burden of your happiness on others shoulder they may dissappoint you, i.e dont feel that xyz person is responsible

to make me feel happy, take the charge and be happy irrespective of behaviour of people around you.



Please reply to tell me the result if you implement these, I am following the same.Can a person change her personality her attitude towards life become more positive if yes then how?
Are you in a happy marriage? It sounds as if you may not be. For years I had mild anxiety, was depressed and frustrated too, but then I got a divorce! I'm not saying that this is what you need, but something is causing this if it only started after your marriage. Think about it and figure out what is wrong in your life. Then, yes, you can change your attitude but sometimes that takes changing things around you too.
Just simple......

All you have to do is change you irrational beliefs to rational one's toward marriage or being committed.



because, you said that after your marriage you became frustrated and depressed.. And i think the main reason is you somewhat not ready to be committed. and another things it also vary time, how long is your marriage now?? Just try this therapy.. Cognitive therapies

THE REBT( rational emotive behavior therapy) and CBT (cognitive behavior therapy)
Yes, I found after a depressing moment in my life, I tend to read a lot of self-help books. I always read 'Unlimited Power' by Anthony Robbins. Just hearing positive words and phrases I think are very powerful ways to stimulate mind and to help move on with life in positive ways.
hi, after marriage there is a very drastic chane in the surroundings so its a question of adjustment and it may not be depression in my opinion. you may be feeling neglected and unable to take decision independently.



1-have some fixed goals to achive

2-tell anyone close to you as to what you want

3-personality is unique so no need to change it yes attitude can be and should be changed for better adjustment

4-always remember that you are in control of the situation can take decisions independently but not at the cost of people who like you
if you really want to change then this can happen; hope is the only thing which carries us in life; its quite natural and its cyclic that relationship starts of with honeymoon phase, then hits its low before one comes back to the reality; i guess you are in the 2nd phase now; expect less and have a +ive attitude towards life, most of the problems stem from our expectations mis-match, very specifically in marriages.

good luck buddy
Hello, I really don't know what exactly your problem is? But a.to. ur words i must say yes! You have to change urself after marriage coz the situations are different after marriage.

If u want to change ur attitude towards life to become more positive and relaxed in life, u have to help the others for the sake of relaxation and i must say please don't think more...

If you like to advice me or want to take more ideas ... plz reply!

Thanks!
Hai! I think life is two part. that is one before marriage and after marriage.

here still to say that any time you are change in negative side. Because it is fall of our personal life. that is you goal is not achieved.

so finally say that still in positive side.
yes you can come out of that if you thinkthat it is your life .noone else has a single right to rule over that or to make that miserable.please first take yourself out of you that is you have to decide that waht are the things that are making you frustated or depressed and then finally make a rule that i will not entertain them anymore.throw out the things out of ur life that make you disturb.we get birth in human onky once and it depends on us that how we make benefit out of this opportunity being a human.we can live it at full as it will not come back and on other side we can make it spoil.please monica you take my email id to consult further probs preetysharma1@gmail.com.try doing some job and make urself buzzzy.Next stop thinking over the matters that makes u disturb like only listen to the words which hurts you but dont make them go to head.restrict those only to ears.when someone says something in contradiction then just speak in his favour but do diplomatically only that what you want to do.pls connect if you want something more or if you want to share more.
Yes. Choice. Attitude. Desire. Self-discipline