How Do I Completely Change My Personality?

I'm so sick of people walking all over me, teasing me, ignoring me and whatnot. And before you say ohhh just be yourself, well, no I can't because every time I do things just get worst.





So my question is, how do I change myself to become a much more confident and respectable personHow Do I Completely Change My Personality?
I felt it was important to get oriented. When you know what you know, what you believe/believe in or don’t believe/believe in and why, when you learn to appreciate what you have to say and you know why you do, when you realize that everything you do and believe-- is your choice, when you decide to have a mission such as seeking your purpose and know that it is only you that accepts or does not accept what another says, when you know why you do what you do, nothing anyone tells you or says holds any weight to what you think unless you believe it should).





We are all unique. A lot of folks out there choose not to orient themselves and as a result they feel lonely or like something inside is missing... they want to feel like they are ';on the right track'; but don't know what that is or what it means. They don’t know how to feel that way except by downsizing, manipulating, puffing up their own perceptions, comparing themselves to others and others to them, belittling, and stepping on others. They want some kind of visceral ';charisma'; or popularity so others will seem to like them or so they feel like their accepted but the catch is, they've traded who they are for something else, something they aren't and deep down inside they still don't know what they think or who they are or they've chosen to live a lie and don't understand the fruit they reap from it. Sometimes they think it’s a game they have to play. The further they try to get from who they are, the more and more lost they become. They've traded their unique design to look, act, and feel like everyone around them. They choose not to embrace who they are and magnify it. These people probably need to feel loved and appreciated more than the average person for whom they really are and not for whom they are trying to be. These people could be on their unique learning path or on a path to self-destruction but seeing through their mask isn’t in my opinion something to live for except to become aware that not everyone knows what’s best for themselves and often because of this they overcompensate by trying to know or sound like they know what’s best for others. You don’t have to agree with everyone you come in contact with and what they think they see in you may not even be true. One other thing to consider... if you feel you are being belittled, ask yourself if you belittle yourself. Its possible that the reason some folks shrink around others is because they don't respect or regard their own attitude or perspective strong enough to hold its own. If that be the case however, that can change simply with choice. The truth is you know enough to get started. Focus on what you know, not what you don't know.





Learn about yourself more. You have a lot to offer just like anyone else who chooses to be who they uniquely are. If you ';changed'; your personality, you might as well be destroying or disregarding who you really are and always will be. Imagine that your maker was perfect and His love which is perfect is what made you so take this journey as a beautiful one to find out who this wonderful person is. Think about ';construction';. You can “enhance” your personality, build on what you have, learn, grow, and build inner strength through small steps. Your time is valuable. You don’t need to waste it on big/cheap/fast appearance/image fixes that don't last forever. Take small meaningful steps with diligent effort. Small steps such as admiring your strengths -- plant some seeds to start this process -- you could try positive self affirmations and ponder them. Recognize what you're good at - there's a lot you're good at (remember you don't have to define this by what others tell you), strengthen those attributes and appreciate them. Let yourself smile when you recognize your growth and when you find genuine ways to uplift those around you (you can begin to recognize how truly valuable you are as you can do so so so much!). Let yourself find humor in things, allow yourself to enjoy the efforts you put forth, the work you do, the positive things you find, the choices you feel good about that you make, the fun you made out of anything you face in your path, the sound of your own voice (a voice is a wonderful thing!!!) (also think about the magnitude of it, not the softness or quietness of it unless you don’t want people to hear you), the positive effects smiling has on others (chain reactions), the things you share with others (whether they accept it or not), the growth that you see in yourself, the ability to think/to love/to learn/to grow. Forget what others think of you.





Learn how to forgive yourself for not being perfect and give yourself an encore for moving forward, for choosing progress, for learning what you can from your experiences that respect how you feel and what you think. Allow yourself to recognize and have joy in the growth, fun, and unique design of those around you – allow yourself to be interested in them the way you take interest in yourself. Also, learn to forgive others who aren't perfect either and accept the fact that some things people choose to say are things you wouldn't necessarily say yourself but that just like you, these people are on a journey too, making their own choices. Find what you respect both in you and everywhere else. Learn why you respect those things. Reflect on your thoughts and follow those things you believe in. Pay attention to your heart. Decide what you want to represent, what you want to stand for and do it, live it, be it. Love it.





Standing for what we believe in, figuring out what our foundation is made of and working to build it as we learn what it should be made of, may very well be part of the purpose of this life, yes? I know I feel sure when I stand on a rock. Things that change with popularity don’t last forever. Seek after things that are truthful/eternal in value. Be honest with the self and with the source of all truth. Trying something without knowing what will come of it but believing good will come of it, while being honest with ourselves about how we feel and being true to ourselves by respecting that feeling, we can learn, as faith comes first, then learning.





Know too, that you don't have to spend the rest of your life trying to prove to those around you that you're something you thought they perceived you were not. Do this for you and what you want to stand for.





Its okay to step outside the box. You could try the acting thing too but you don't have to see it as faking it. You could see it as making it. You can have any attitude your heart desires.How Do I Completely Change My Personality?
I wish I knew the answer we could make millions if we did.
Join community theater. There you will learn how ';act'; differently from your regular self. You will learn to act a certain way in different situations...... PLUS you get applause when your convincing.
The only way people can really walk over you is if you put yourself on the ground. And pretending to be someone you're not is a very strange thing to do... You should just hope that someday you'll respect yourself so that others respect you too. If you respected who you are, you wouldn't be trying to change it.
It's all about character. I know the question, ';What would Jesus do?'; sounds trite, but there's something to it. Yes, he turned the other cheek, but he also threw the moneychangers out of the temple forcibly. So he was tough when he needed to be, loving always, loyal to friends, wise to all, but threw down the line when it came to the Pharisees. You can almost see him shouting at them. ';You whitewashed graves! You nest of snakes!';





So grow in character. It's a lifelong journey. Ask yourself, what would be the mature thing to do here? How would my grandmother counsel me?
The secret to success in being more confident is this:





Pretend you are a great actor, and the role you are playing is the person you wish that you were. This person is confident but not arrogant. This person stands up for herself/himself without being combative. This person is friendly and open with others, and shows interest in what they like to do, and as a result, people find her/him fascinating to be around.





Once you become really good at acting out this role, you will realize that this is the person you were born to be. The secret, to put it succinctly, is to ';fake it until you make it';.





When you act confident, people treat you like a confident person. Don't be afraid to BE that person, and if you feel like you can't, play the part like an award winning actor!





Good luck!
If you want to change your personality the best way is think of how your actions affect the people around you. Before you do something see yourself as a 2nd person who's watching yourself do it and think how you would react to it. Like that change your ways of mingling with people. I'm not really good at explaining this but a 4-5 years back i used to be teased walked over and ignored and its not fun. Mingle more with people around you and stop caring about it when people tease you etc. When you react to it people get tempted to continue on.
start working out, the working out releases hormones whether your male or female, the hormones pump up you how do i say this ';caveman'; part of your personality giving you confidence, and looking good does too, start watching different shows than what your watching now, also get a new wardrobe and remember when somebody asks you to do something for them and you don't feel like doing it say no and if they ask why say i don't feel like it
Nice question :P


just do what I tell you and your life will change dude


first of all just need to let you know that this world is not for nice people lmao and like people these days are F****D in the head so its hard to gain respect which eventually leads to losing self condience and low self esteem but you cant let these F*****S win!


listen, for the walking all over ya problem, you gotta learn to man up and be tougher, dont be scared to F**K someone up when they disrespect you, even if it means you get your *** kicked you have to get your *** kicked sometimes in order to get somewhere, its a part of life.


Dont take **** FROM NOOO ONE !!!! AT ALL , dont be an ***hole but like always make sure to defend yourself even from the stupidest comments or even if someone simply makes fun of you.


as I wrote above, you do that slowly people will tease you less and eventually will lead to you being respected equally unless you start teasing people lmao which probably wont happen.


If people ignore you it just means they dont know you probably or theyre juust to cocky to socialise with someone who may not appear to be as cool as they think. **** those people , never change urself for someone else to impress them or anything cause its a ****** up thing.


One last thing, if you feel like doing (not nessceary) change your image, the way you dress, the music you listen to but stay original at the same time. if you had your own personality, people will revolve around you, dont be the one that always trys to fits in with a group of people.


thats pretty much it , remeber always stay positive and dont let anyone get to ya. be nice to all people except the people that arent nice to you.


good luck XD