I'm going to assume by ';shell'; you mean that you're introverted, really really shy, don't like big groups or talking to strangers.
Been there, done that, burned the t-shirt.
First thing you have to understand is that, in spite of what the movies say, you're looking at a process that is likely to take time. There's no quick or easy way to turn the shy guy in the corner into the life of the party.
Next you need to determine what motivates you - is it a fear of risk that keeps you from talking to that pretty girl across the cafeteria? Fear of rejection? Fear making a fool of yourself?
Understand that while you may feel comfortable inside your shell, the cost of staying there is high: fewer (or no) friends, no chance of getting a girlfriend, no development of valuable self confidence and social skills that will help you meet new people, make new friends, succeed in job interviews, succeed in the work place.
And then the hard part - consciously CHOOSE to act just once, take that risk, talk to that person - and FOLLOW THROUGH. Do this once. Don't think about doing it all the time just focus on the once. After that time, do it again, but only focus on that one time.
Talking to someone through all this might help as well - a good friend, a teacher, parent. I'd even suggest a counselor or even a therapist, since they have in depth knowledge on working through these things. One thing you want to watch out for is some of the modern unproven alternative therapies. Many of those will cost lots of money with very uncertain (or no) results. Don't try to find a miracle cure, just stick to what I said. The most important part is to actually follow through and step out of that shell. Do it once. Then do it once again. Soon you'll find yourself doing it more easily, then naturally.How to bring in a dramatic personality change?
join the marine corps ... seriously the will help you blast right out of that shell.. me I was in the navy not so much blasting .... pretty boring to be honest ....peace
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