How can i change my personality?

i've been told that i havent got a welcoming or friendly personality and ive been completing personality tests online and the results are often that im unware of peoples feelings, cannot handle stress etc. These descriptions sound like me which kind of makes me uncomfortable about my personality.

im changing schools next year and sorta want a new friendler personality and was wondering how to change my personality.



are you just born with certain charactersistics?? or can you change your personality if you dont like it?? how would i change my personality???How can i change my personality?
well personality is made up from the people your hanging out with, the challenges you face, the things you do.. and having a more friendlier attitude: you can start with smiling as oyu walk past people in the hallway at school that might make it easier to approach you and talk to you and feel more comfortabl trying to make friends with you. you can learn how to handle stress by searching google.. oh wait i already searched it for you.. bwahaha you welcome.. but anyways. herre is a few links i searched so i wouldnt have to write down a whole bunch of stuf.. its way early and im tired.



here you go:



how to handle stress: http://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+ha



how to have a better attitude: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c



how to be happy with yourself and others: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c



how to make friends when changing schools: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c





AND REMEMBER EVERYONE LIKES SOMEONE WHO IS SMILING.. unless they are narcassistic.. hey im even annoyed of people who are always happy sometimes. well im goin ta bed.. g'nightHow can i change my personality?
First of all you have to be in the mood to change your personality . . in other words you have to want too.



Secondly you need to make sure that you are doing this for yourself and not for others . . . people are just people . . as long as you are happy with who you are then there is no need to change.



it's best to get a piece of paper and pen and write out the things that you are not happy with based upon your observances.



then one by one try to find a solution to each on of them.



for me, i am too sarcastic. so when i am hanging with my friends, i have learned to monitor what i say before i say it to fit the situation and to put me in a good light. . . however, this takes practice, i am doing it for myself too..



if people can't accept who you are even if you try then you are better off finding other people who ';get you';
These questionairs are a bit airy fairy.

So if it is merely that the completion of one has told you these things then it may not be quite so bad. You then say you see some of these traits in yourself so therefore the acknowledgement of failings is the first step in dealing with them. Try one thing at a time. Practise smiling and being welcoming and build on that, sometimes we can all be unaware of other peoples feelings but try and be sensitive to what may hurt another and eliminate. Often it is hard when the person says nothing but common decency should prevail a sin not making a fool out of anyone, being polite and treat as you would hope to be treated.
you can always change your personality if you dont like it %26amp; personally

always stick to being yourself not others %26amp; you might to change your

unawareness for others feeling be more open minded to what they say

or do before judging them if also control ur stress it also might help out

to be more open minded %26amp; yourself
First of all, just because your focusing on these particular characteristics at the moment doesn't mean that you are a bad person or should want to change your personality at all.

I've been studying psychology for 4 years (now postgrad) and from what I have learnt you can't change your personality, but you can learn tools to try and improve on areas like sociability and empathy. NEVER trust those silly online tests. They are absolutely NOT valid or reliable and are no indication of who you really are. I have been trained for years on how to develope accurate measures of psychological phenomena (ie personality) and these online tests are far from that.

It sounds like you do care about other people, so it won't be too hard for you to be friendlier. If you are worried why don't you go and see a counsellor? Either at school or a psychologist that your GP can recommend. They will teach you strategies to deal with the stress of changing schools and help you to come up with some ideas about making friends etc. The fact that you are bothering to ask questions like this just goes to show that you are a nice person and are on the right track. I'm sure you just need to practice little things like listening skills and maybe set yourself little tasks like asking someone if they want to study with you or eat lunch together.

Don't let mean people or crappy online tests make you feel bad about yourself!