Why is it that whenever i am in a relationship i change my personality to fit the one that the guy likes best?

i have had a few people i like but after i find what kinda girl they want i change my personality to fit the one they like best. and then after a few months i get tired of it and start to venture off into my own(real) personality and then all we do is fight and argue cause they think i change in a wrong way when really its just the real me and they find theydon'tt like me. What do i do ? and How do i change this problem?Why is it that whenever i am in a relationship i change my personality to fit the one that the guy likes best?
Start looking for partners who have your personality.Why is it that whenever i am in a relationship i change my personality to fit the one that the guy likes best?
because your insecured about yourself and afraid that if you show your true self you wont be accepted.

you need to learn to love yourself and be yourself bc when someone loves you they will love just the way you are and if they dont than they are definitely not worth being with !
It sounds like, to some degree, you are not confident in your natural personality's ability to attract the guys you like. So that would explain why you change it. I don't know that there's a magic fix. Maybe go after a guy who likes your natural personality best.
It just shows that you are really trying,

to impress the guy and want them to like you,

even more.

You should just really be yurself.

Have more coinfidence in you.

If they dont like you for who you are.

then just let them screw it.

Forget them.

Theyre not worth it.
Because you're insecure and you think you have the personality they want. Just be yourself. You'll probably have more luck and you probably appear bi-polar when you act one way and suddenly decide the act is boring. They fight with you b/c you aren't the guy they thought you were in the beginning of the relationship. You change on them, even if you changed to yourself.



Be yourself. They only don't like the real you b/c you lying to them the whole time. If you're yourself a guy knows what he's getting into. They find it more attractive. And you might still win some and lose some, but at least you we're being honest to yourself. A guy wants someone who's them-self not a clone of what you think they want.



Besides. You change to be what they want. But it's not you so in the end you lose them anyway. Think about it girlie. It'll be ok.
Take it from a guy who not only has done the same thing in past relationships, but have been in some with women who are doing exactly what you're doing now. I married one of them and it was after we got married that she decided to show her true self. Guess what? I didn't like what I saw at all.



Right quick. STOP IT!



In truth you're only causing yourself pain and anguish and confusing other people.



First get to know who you are. Second, always be yourself. Trying to people please is a painful path to follow. Third, the guys you're going for. Are they truly the type you can see yourself spending a long time with, or just someone you want to spend ';some'; time with?



If you're really young it's not that big of a deal. Just have fun. But as you get older, you'll suddenly realize that your taste in men has changed. And so has your attitude.
Always tell yourself that it's the female who does the choosing and you are the one in control. This is true of every female. Don't worry about whether you impressed someone or not. Guys will come and go. No need to fake it. Good luck.