Change personality?

I really, honestly want to work on changing my personality. I'm a very insecure person and feel that this effects most aspects of my life. How can I learn to change my bad behavior? And do you think this is actually possible?Change personality?
Yes, very much so.



Each of us have a collection of learnt strategies that we use to live our lives. One of the strategies that you have developed and are very good at is being insecure. Other people have developed a strategy for feeling secure, and through practice are very good at it.



The way to change your personality is to model people who have good strategies, and hence learn them. When you very first learnt to be insecure, you probably imitated someone around you who was insecure, and picked up their habits.



The fact that you want to change is very good, and works in your favour. If you hang out with people who are secure, and then find out how they go about being secure, you can do the same and hence learn a new skill. The same applies to any other new skill you wish to acquire - find someone who already has this skill, get curious and ask how they do what they do.



I've listed a couple of books you might like to check out, whic are by people who work in the 'change' arena.Change personality?
First off, yes it is possible.



Secondly: you've got to stop thinking like that. If your only fault is insecurity, what you need is to start believing in yourself, not to ';change'; who you are.



Get a paper and write down all the things you like about yourself( that you can listen, the color of your eyes, anything), and then write down all the things you don't like about yourself.

Once you've done this, look at the bad list and think of which of the things that you wrote down are actually true( there's allot less than you think).

You work on the things that are left, and you always keep the good list close at hand, to remind exactly how great you are( because you ARE great).

Choose ten things you most like from the good list and every time you pass by a mirror, tell yourself them( for example: I'm pretty, I'm smart, I'm a good listener, etc.) (If you don't normally have enough time, five will do just the same.



Conclusion:

You will go bettering the things from the bad list( if you stretch little, you start stretching. If you're very shy, you practice loosening up.)

And you will constantly remind yourself that you're really, really great.



And remember: you are a beautiful queen!
JUST READ THE HISTORY OF ANY

- PROPHIT

- OR GANDY OF INDIA

- OR BUSA OF JAPAN
Jump in! Perform! Just do it!



Changing is like dropping a stone on a stagnant pond matrix.



You are the pond and the stonethrower.



The wave is 1st a small thing then it gets bigger and eventually it will sustain itself.



When the wave gets big enough itll become part of the pond.



Teeheehee Symbolism is a nice Psychoanalysis technique.
People think it is easy to change ''for a shy person, learn to loosen up'', Let me tell ya it aint that easy.

What you want to work on doin is not changing your personality but changing what you want in life. I am a quiet person, not so much shy but just a very deep thinker, I always wanted to popular, friends with everyone, the guy everybody knows, until I began to realise that it made me feel very uncomfortable trying to be that person, i had no time alone, I had txts all the time my life was not my own, I was not made for being a popular person. Right now I would say my status has fallen again and now I have a completely different idea of what I want, I have booked a trip to India ending in New Zealand and I have never been happier. Don't change yourself, change what you have around you.