To Change The Whole Personality?

Those who want to change personalities is because mostly they are,pessimist,shy,bad self-confidence,';geek'; etc. and I'm one of them,especially the shy one! damn! I always smile and laugh and I can't hold my smiles sometimes. I have a very bad self-confidence and it really influence my life.. :(



Sometimes I'm jealous of people having a lot of friends,can talk much and dare to do funny and cool things! I have friends and good classmates,they even say I'm nice and happy! but I think my insides are blue...



All I want to change is my personality and they say ';be yourself';! how the heck can you be yourself if you're not happy to be yourself! you want to avoid it huh? Cause I'm gonna try to be someone else...a new different side of me....



can you give me some advices? please!To Change The Whole Personality?
Check out this book....Telling Yourself the Truth. I read it and it was quite a book. It really made me open my eyes to a lot of things. I used to be just like you. Then one day I told myself I had had enough and I basically reprogrammed my brain.



Basically we are full of lies sometimes. I'm stupid, too shy, too something. You have to get rid of all that negativity and replace it with truth. Instead of ';I'm stupid'; I now say ';Really, I'm pretty smart, I was on dean's list 4x'; or ';I'm a social wreck but I can really make people laugh.'; Stuff like that. I used to be pretty plain. Now I have punkish hair that's dark w/ pinkish highlights. Really...it looks pretty cool.



Don't let other people decide your future. Don't let them tell you what you are or what you are not. I'm as big a dork as they come, and I revel in it! People respect me for it, and most of all I respect myself.To Change The Whole Personality?
It is not generally adviced to pretend to be something you're not. Old people who spent most of their years pretending usually mention it as their biggest waste of time.



If you're gonna do it anyway my advice is to find a balance, a middle point that makes you happiest. Don't go to the extreme of turning yourself into an actor and live your life like it was a play, especially because people will notice and they will find you weird.



In my opinion the best option is to analize and understand yourself and then design a lifestyle in which yourself can be happy. Changing personalities from the core is possible but the methods to do it aren't public yet.
It is harder to change an old dog, but it can be done.

If you are of age, join the Marines they will change you.

If you have to do it your self it can be a good journey or a long one You may want proffessional advice.
I was the same Way dude, and it still shows. You will never be able to change youself completely, but you can make improvements if you try hard enough. Shyness is indeed something that can be cured, many people are naturally confident but others are born shy. I became shy after being bullied as a young child. The best thing for you to do is take some of the routine aspects of your life and throw them away. Change is the ultimate cure for a lack of confidence, If you have the opportunity to go travelling, I dont know how old you are, or even on a school trip- Take it. You will find that taking yourself out of your own little bubble world that you call your life will work miracles- It worked for me I developed confidence on a school trip, Because change is good. Make changes to your appearance. I highlighted my hair, for example, and I noticed that people began to treat me slightly differently. Most importantly you need to have confidence in yourself to have confidence with others. Its tough to make yourself look good but if you stop putting yourself down it can change your attitude. Thats why when people have bad days, everyone seems to be against you. The attitude you have is the attitude you give off to others. All in all you will need some drastic change from your routine to develop yourself. Good luck Buddy, I know it will work for you :)